For a healthy development, parents want their children to sleep at the same and not late time every night. But sometimes children just can't sleep. So why does a child not want to sleep?
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The first reason for this is related to the child's energy. We all know that children are very energetic. If they do not spend enough of this energy during the day, they do not want to sleep.
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A child who cannot establish a sufficient relationship with his parents may not want to sleep. This situation is related to intensity rather than time spent. A child who spends time with his parents all day may not be able to establish sufficient closeness and relationships. For this reason, he does not want to sleep because he wants to establish a relationship.
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If a child is anxious, he does not want to sleep because he is alone in his room or because he does not feel safe because his parents are not with him even if he is not alone.
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Children who think that their parents will have fun without them or have a good time with their other siblings do not sleep.
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If there are things they are worried about, they will not sleep until they fall asleep. He does not want to sleep because he will be alone with his world.
At this point, parents try to negotiate by saying that if their children sleep on time, they will take them to the park. Even though it is a well-intentioned approach, it is quite wrong. Because by behaving like this, parents give the message that if you want to spend time with me, you must first deserve it. In addition, since there is a promise of a reward, the child is left alone with his fears instead of understanding the problem.
For these reasons, it is necessary to understand the child's real needs by empathizing rather than getting someone to do something with the promise of a reward. Both the problem is solved and the relationship with the child develops more healthily.
Why do children swear?
Sometimes we witness their children swearing. This may happen just a few times, or it may happen many times. We are surprised that children learn swear words more than they swear. However, nowadays it is very difficult for us to protect our children from the harmful content of devices such as televisions and tablets. Moreover, even if we can protect them from these, they can learn from their peers or the adults around them.
We tell the child who swears a few times that this is not right. Gives feedback that explains how it works. We even give a reward if we think this is not enough. However, after the awards ended, he was seen swearing again. Sometimes, even if we do not apply for any reward, the child may continue to swear and make it permanent. So why? The main reason for this is that the child cannot express his emotions. The child, who cannot express what he is sad or afraid of in words, suppresses these feelings, but still wants to express them in some way; He uses blasphemy for this. The reason why he cannot express his feelings is not because he does not have enough vocabulary. He thinks that if he expresses his feelings, he will be judged and get a bad reaction. Therefore, instead of suppressing the behavior by giving rewards, it is necessary to teach the child to express his emotions. The reward can only be a temporary solution.
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