In research on anger and attachment, the focus is on the anger a child shows in response to parental separation or the threat of separation. In the popular experiment conducted by Heinecke and Westheimer (1966); Some babies aged 13-32 months were taken to the care group for a period of not less than two weeks and their behavior was observed. In parallel, some children were observed with their families as a control group. The result of the observation; It is the extreme aggression of children taken from their families. In another follow-up study, children in the subject and control groups were given the opportunity to play with the same toy for a while and as a result; Four times more anger was observed in children in the care group. After the children in the experimental group returned to their homes, the toy test was performed again 10 weeks later and no difference was observed in terms of aggressive attitudes between the two groups. Six weeks or more after intercourse, children stop their aggressive behavior. It was recorded in the reports of observant mothers that the children displayed hostile attitudes towards their mothers and experienced emotional ambivalence towards their mothers in the months following their return home. In another study by Main et al. (1995), when expressing their personalities in three types of attachment styles, independent individuals observed that they were generally consistent and open in their descriptions of past relationships, whether positive or not, valuing their past attachment experiences and their impact on their current personality. They observed that individuals with preoccupied attachment styles are people who are very preoccupied with their past experiences and describe them obsessively, but lack consistency and clarity in their expressions and show feelings of anger when describing their past experiences with their parents. Indifferent individuals, on the other hand, are those who attach extreme importance to their freedom, have difficulty remembering their childhood memories and are not consistent in their descriptions, idealize their parents, and emphasize that negative experiences in the past do not have a negative impact on their personality. Disruptions from infancy or inadequate expression of emotions can cause reveals pathologies. While people with this obsessive attachment style have a false and defensive self-structure, it can be observed that they feel hurt and use it to express their anger in situations where they see themselves as a bad, worthless person. The feeling felt here is that the individual characteristically feels that he/she will have difficulty in sustaining his/her life without the attention and service provided by someone else who is important to him/her. The individual's effort to separate and individuate leads to abandonment depression, where it causes defensive action. Individuals who become defensive use different expression styles (tendencies such as putting their anger in, controlling it or directing it outward) when expressing their anger, and it varies from individual to individual. People with a secure attachment style can easily approach their partners and be happy to be attached. They do not have concerns about abandonment or people getting closer to them than they want. They can establish long-term relationships and enjoy having sex with the partners in these relationships, they have high levels of respect and trust for both themselves and people, they can get support against external stress factors, they are pleased with self-disclosure and the constructions on the other side reveal themselves, they have high interpersonal skills. They display a positive, optimistic/constructive attitude in their relationships and experience less physical symptoms and death anxiety than people with other attachment styles.
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