Life begins for us the moment we open our eyes to the world. As individuals, we go through various stages in this journey of life. When we come into the world, we begin to have our first experiences with our home. We record these experiences and make our first learnings. Each of these includes emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. If enough time and patience was spent while acquiring these experiences, the recordings continue to affect us with positive feelings until today. Negative records also affect our present. As they say, you have to go back to your childhood. The first records begin in childhood, and their effects can be seen in adulthood. While our lives within the family continue, one day it is time to leave home. In our culture, this separation is usually seen with going to school, military service, or getting a job in another city. A sense of unity is very important to us. Being together and together. Although the feeling of unity is a very nice feeling, it is sometimes a situation that does not allow us to be individuals. In fact, it is a process that makes the person feel guilty for wanting to be an individual. Because the basic emotion here is fear. Fear that our unity, togetherness and order will be disrupted. Behaviors that we know are commonplace do not scare us. When we say goodbye to our family of origin in a healthy way and they say goodbye to us as well, we continue to walk the path of self-realization as individuals. If there is no separation process such as going to school or military service, we leave home through marriage. A kind of preparation is made for the separation through the processes that take place before marriage. This period is the time when the foundations of a new home will be laid. It is a sweet process in which the excitement of getting to know each other and establishing a new home is experienced. Afterwards, with marriage, the process of becoming and becoming husband and wife, which accompanies being an individual, begins. If there were problems in the process of becoming an individual, these will also affect the husband-wife system. A new home means a new process. All of these innovations will bring development with difficulty. Of course, this development will not happen automatically but with effort. To be husband and wife; To be us by giving each other the right to life as me and you. You and I both have a life. It means that sometimes we can do separate activities, but we can come together for our common goals. We want children to be included in our lives. It is a period in which we feel and learn to be more. We see that our ability to make joint decisions with the child increases or that disagreements occur more frequently. But no matter what, common ground can always be found for the child. Because both couples think this is for the sake of my child. Here we learn to be parents. Adolescence, which is a critical period in children's development, also affects the family. The stormy process of change during adolescence becomes a period of adolescence within the family. Because the family, which has always experienced the feeling of unity until now, is faced with an individual who is trying to become independent. Because this is the period of Change and Development. The period when an adolescent reaches puberty coincides with the period of leaving home. The period has come when husband and wife are left alone again and questions about marriage begin. It is a process in which adult relationships begin with children. This is not easy, of course there may be difficulties. It is a period when our own parents also begin to have health problems and we are entering a period of gradual withdrawal from working life. We are slowly moving towards older ages and completing the journey of life. This is the cycle of life; We are born, we have our first life experiences, we leave home, we experience husband-wife and parenthood through our own marriage process, a period in which we stay as a couple again, and with the old age phase, we complete the cycle of life with our life partner or alone. The family life cycle continues like this and each step is different from each other. is affected. A step that is not completed in a healthy way affects the quality of the next step. In these steps, we take the past as a model with the information we first acquired and now realize our model, or we take responsibility and plan our future and develop opposing models against the models we see and learn. So, when we look back at our childhood, we see that it still exists today. If we are not satisfied with the current situation and want to change it, we must take responsibility and constantly work on today. Hoping to be healthy individuals and take the consequences of our own responsibilities…
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