Stop for a minute and think about the fact that the person who will be your spouse is 14-15 years old and you have not been born yet. This may not sound like much at first. But who knows, it is possible that you may see someone around you who has faced such a situation (married at an early age) or is about to face such a situation. At the same time, other expressions that you frequently encounter or are likely to encounter are "I wish I had the wisdom I have now, I would definitely object to it", "I don't know how it happened either", "the circumstances were such that I had to get married", "I had to get married because of the pressure of my mother/father". , "I thought I would be much more comfortable if I got married", "I wanted to get married, but now I regret it", etc. Before moving on to how early marriage affects human psychology and whether I want a divorce, it would be useful to know the reasons for early marriage. It is possible to list these as lack of education, economic level, customs, religious beliefs, violence, inequality, natural disasters and wars. The responsibility that comes with early marriage is an extremely heavy burden for the child who has not yet established his own identity. This situation paves the way for various problems in both personal and marital life. Suddenly assigning an adult role to a child who is not physically and psychologically ready for marriage causes traumatic events to begin for children between the ages of 10-18. In early marriages, children are forced to have sexual intercourse and take on responsibilities such as family, home and child care, which paves the way for psychological problems. Children who are forced to marry without having the necessary knowledge and maturity to prepare them for adult life, to contribute to family and society, to establish a family and raise children also cause children to see themselves as incapable and incompetent. The child, who is exposed to this difficult process at an early age, experiences many different psychological problems such as depression, anxiety disorder, introversion, adjustment disorder, and anger outbursts. Those who have to marry at an early age generally have less say in their relationships with their spouses, inequality in the balance of power, neglect, abuse, They are also very likely to face situations such as the risk of being seen or abandoned.
And time continues to progress, for better or worse... A child who marries at an early age becomes an adult, but when he looks back, he sees an unlived childhood, adolescence, the things he needs. She tries to live with the lack of love, care and education, with the feeling of motherhood experienced at an early age and the many responsibilities that come with it.
As she gets older and reaches the age of 25-30, her wishes and desires become different again. Naturally, as the spouse gets older, different conflicts continue to arise. It is thought that the mistake made is irreversible, but even if it is, it poses greater risks. And right at that moment, "I want a divorce, but..." It can be said that the expressions started to be used. I want to divorce, but what do I do with my children, where do I live, how do I make a living, what does my family say, how do my spouse-friends-relatives react, my spouse does not accept it, and many other buts that we do not know cause an unhappy marriage to continue. Most importantly, the psychological problems that occur with an unhappy marriage cause the person's life balance to be disrupted. A study revealed that 29% of girls who married at an early age had suicidal thoughts and 21% attempted suicide. For this reason, the social support or psychological support that can be provided is very important in preventing mental problems that may occur.
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