The first thing to consider for a healthy couple relationship is the fact that the normal of each relationship is specific to that relationship. Comparing and comparing the relationship with someone else's relationship is one of the attitudes that harms the relationship. As a couple, it is necessary to recognize the positive features in the relationship and nurture the strengths.
It is quite normal for the relationship to change over time. With each new life stage, the relationship with the individuals changes. Differences can be seen with different roles during the dating period and changing roles during the marriage period. Here, it is important to accept and adapt to this change and transformation instead of criticizing the other person by saying "You are not the same as before...".
The way you communicate directly affects your relationship.
Open and It is important to communicate effectively and express your wishes and expectations, not to expect your partner to understand you. In this way, you take responsibility for your own communication. It should not be forgotten that people can only be understood as much as they express them.
It is very valuable to show love and attention to your spouse and to accompany the other person's feelings. Some people are tactile, some have stronger communication skills and put their feelings into words more, everyone has a different way of expressing themselves. What is important here is to notice the steps taken and express satisfaction rather than how love is shown.
It is necessary not to talk about the problems in the relationship and the confidentiality of the relationship with everyone. While involving others as problem solvers may provide comfort in the moment, it harms the relationship. If there are unresolved and recurring problems in the couple relationship, solutions can be strengthened by receiving psychotherapy support. Individual problems also negatively affect the couple's relationship over time. For a healthy relationship, first of all, two healthy individuals are required. It is very important for the couple to take steps to find a solution together, without ignoring the problems.
It is necessary to respect individual boundaries in the relationship and to be able to create us without losing me. The relationship should allow the couple to develop and grow individually.
Determining common pleasures and activities, creating time spent alone, and keeping social relationships alive are good for the couple.
S In order to communicate effectively, spouses should talk when they are psychologically and physiologically ready. Face-to-face communication should be established at the right place and time. Talking about an important issue when you are sleepy, tired and hungry will not bring a healthy solution. Communicating when you feel very angry and angry and too nervous to touch your partner will not get you the result you want. First, reconciliation should be achieved between the couple, and then healthy communication should be established for a solution.
Understanding does not mean giving rights.
One may not always agree with his/her spouse's opinion, there are differences between the couple. thoughts may be present. In such situations, it is important to listen to the other person by trying to understand him, even if you do not agree with him. Trying to understand the other person does not mean agreeing with him. Establishing a healthy communication and being able to say "I think this way, my partner thinks this way" makes the other person feel understood.
Repeatedly talking about the negative situations experienced in the past wears out the relationship.
When communicating, the past It is important not to raise the problems over and over again, but to ensure that the conversations take place here and now. One of the most common mistakes is to bring up past problems too frequently and create similar discussions. If there is a behavior that does not work and the same result always occurs, it is necessary to change this behavior and look at different alternatives.
People cannot determine the attitude of the other person or how they will behave, but their own behavior and reactions to events are still under the control of the person. Therefore, responsibility for the steps taken and behaviors should be assumed.
It is very important for you to see the positive aspects of your spouse and notice the small steps he takes for you. Positive behavior increases when small changes are understood and appreciated. Whatever thought is fed, that side will increase over time. It is necessary not to focus on negative thoughts but also to see and notice positive steps.
Turning problems into advantages…
It is up to us to see the problems and conflicts in the relationship as development and growth and to turn them into an advantage for the relationship. There are some problems in every relationship, and there will be some problems here. Not focusing on the problem but looking at solutions together strengthens the relationship.
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