Nowadays, many couples state that they are very attached to each other, that they spend time together at every opportunity, and that they cannot spend time without each other. Although this sounds nice, sometimes one or both couples notice that something is going abnormal. In some cases, conflicts occur in the relationship as a result of the person allowing too much interference in his/her private space, while in other cases, couples constantly spending time together can make the relationship monotonous. In both cases, complaints and inquiries may begin. 'Why am I bored? I wonder if I don't love him anymore?' or, on the other hand, 'Why are we arguing so much?' Questions like 'He has no respect for me anymore!' are inevitable. What needs to be understood here is whether the couples are truly committed or dependent on each other. In committed couples, each partner has their own private space and a common area where they meet outside of this private space. At this point, what is meant by private space is the person's own living space. For example, the ability of a person to spend time with his/her family and friends, to engage in a social activity alone or to rest alone at home is included in this area. At the same time, the person still makes his own decisions about himself, even if he consults his partner. Taking responsibility and supporting each other are at the forefront in the relationship. In dependent relationships, people spend time together in all social activities. Partners go everywhere and everywhere together, and when this order is disrupted even once, arguments and fights begin. These couples do not make decisions without consulting each other, or they become unable to make decisions on their own. There is an overprotective approach and attachment in the relationship.
It is very important to get psychological support in solving the problem of dependent relationship because couples can be helpless in a vicious circle. In this case, external intervention is required. Although sometimes solution-oriented methods are applied, some situations may require getting to the root of the problem and working on the root cause of the addiction. Because most of the time, the underlying problem is individuals' lack of self-confidence. While studying the dependent relationship, couples' perspectives on the relationship and their schemas about the relationship Awareness is raised by changing the bee. In addition, self-confidence building and strengthening activities are carried out. Therapies such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Couples Therapy are applied.
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