The process of supporting young people who will take the exam is a very difficult path.
The fact that the student is in adolescence and this process is a stressful experience in itself means that the student who will take the exam may sometimes feel restless, anxious or aggressive. It can cause people to behave in a
manner. As parents, it is important to normalize the environment
as much as possible during this process. Here are some suggestions for the parents of students who will take the exam:
1-Get through this process together. This exam and the university he got into
are important factors that will shape his life. Support your child both financially and morally. Try to make conditions
more suitable for him. For example, providing a suitable home for study
or driving him/her to a classroom study when he/she cannot make it. Separated parents should come together more frequently during this period and take responsibility for their children together. 2-Do not put on extra stress. Try not to reflect your own troubles and problems,
the stress of your job, or the problems with your spouse to the student who will take the exam
as much as possible. For the university candidate who is already in a stressful period
, more stress may create problems focusing
and may cause him/her to direct his/her anger towards you.
3-Do not compare yourself with your younger self. Talking about how there were no private teaching institutions or private teachers in our time will only make him feel
unsuccessful and worthless, and will not lead him to make better use of the opportunities you gave him
as you think.
> 4-Do not compare with others. Comparing
with other students may lead to lack of self-confidence.
5-Do not remind
the opportunities you provided in a negative way later. In case of failure, speeches such as "We did ......... for you, you failed again" are only used at the point where your child, who is upset because he has already failed
, expects the most support
causes demoralization.
6- Do not try to realize your own ideals
through your child. You may have wanted to be an engineer, but forcing your child
to do so will only lead to a job in which he/she will not be happy. It means directing to the spot
area. Being unhappy with your job is also a factor that greatly reduces a person's quality of life.
7- Give the message that we are with you no matter what. Don't react positively when you get a high score in the exam and have a negative attitude when you get a low score. Always try to act consistently. No matter what
, show that you love him/her.
8- Support your child to take responsibility. If he wants to handle some things
himself, create space for him to do this.
If he wants to renew his registration at the private teaching institution, allow him to do so; if he wants to buy his own textbooks, allow him to do so.
9- Exams at school Teach him to take responsibility
when he gets a bad grade. Instead of resorting to excuses such as the teacher gave a low score or asked what he did not explain in the exam
, support him in perceiving the real problem and changing it. This will enable him to learn
how to make a realistic analysis and will give him a skill he can use in the future.
10- Do not treat your child extremely differently from normal
the day before the exam. Going to a different place and eating different food than usual may create different reactions in the body. Acting too softly or exaggerating this situation may create pressure or create the perception that the exam is a very
bad thing and that's why you behaved well.
11- Do not use sentences that will create pressure. ;We trust you, you can do it all
etc. Words can create anxiety in a person. Most young people are afraid of disappointing their
families. Instead, it might be better to say, "Do your best, we are always with you." 12- Do not panic before the exam. Remember, panic is contagious.
If you are as calm as possible, the room will take an example from you and calm down even more.
I wish success to all students.
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