Sexual desire disorders in women may differ from person to person. There may be a desire disorder, arousal disorder, or an orgasmic disorder that may develop as a result. In order for us to say that we have sexual desire disorder; It should not be due to an organic problem, there should be no substance addiction, and the person should not experience this after severe depression or trauma. It is very natural for someone who has a serious disease such as cancer or after an operation to not be able to think about sexuality. If it lasts for a period of about 6 months, a woman is diagnosed with sexual reluctance. Sexual desire disorder, which is based on psychological foundations, has a fluctuating course. Especially the fatigue and burnout syndrome of our age also triggers sexual reluctance.
Sexual reluctance and inability to orgasm are interrelated concepts. Subconsciously, if a woman feels guilty about taking pleasure in sexual intercourse, this means that the woman is reluctant to have sex. While her conscious mind desires sex, her subconscious thinks that she has committed a crime.
Perhaps the homosexual urges of a woman who says she cannot orgasm may be suppressed in her subconscious, inhibiting her in sexuality and causing reluctance.
The woman's phobias and avoidance. Everything he experiences makes him lose sexual reluctance. Sexuality is the moment when a person is most vulnerable. If he inhibits and represses himself so much that he cannot act freely at this moment when he is naked and sharing his privacy, this will be one of the reasons for sexual reluctance. However, not being able to share the fantasies and excitements of their dreams with their partner because they cannot trust them and having sex in an unsafe environment. How satisfying or exciting it can be.
The woman cannot share it with her husband, but she does not want to have children. His wife may not be sexy, charismatic or attractive to him. She may be living in a crowded family environment at home.
In our society, the girl child is raised a little more oppressively regarding sexuality. Sexuality is intertwined with the concepts of shame and sin in unspoken moral and religious teachings.
Arousal disorder in subconscious sexual reluctance is actually a dynamic defense mechanism. If sexual pleasure causes some kind of anxiety, there will be an inhibition towards the partner. arousal disorder The first thing that comes to mind when it is mentioned is epipal conflict. Fear of losing control... This is such a common situation in our country.
In our country, mothers treat their sons like princes. We are raising women with addictive characteristics. Mothers who cannot be separated from their sons, sons looking for women who look like their mothers, the cycle continues like this. Women also marry men who look like their fathers. As a result, when the subconscious comes into play, as both parties perceive each other as parents, sexuality subconsciously turns into a crime.
The husband needs to respect his wife. If her husband does not respect her, the woman perceives herself as a slave serving her husband, and subconscious feelings of worthlessness are activated. We therapists attach great importance to this; a man who does not respect his wife cannot expect sexuality from a woman.
As sexual therapists, we try to solve this process with behavioral, cognitive or dynamic approaches. We work hard to make constipated lovemaking enjoyable. We help couples open their sexual horizons when they are stuck in a trap. The main point that needs to be improved in sexual intercourse is to improve the relationship between the couple. The closeness between the couple is desired to be real closeness. They need to be in a safe relationship. The situation where relationships are at their worst is fake friendships and unreal selves. People want to hear always positive, always positive, always good things in their relationships. She always expects compliments from her husband or wife. This triggers another distorted relationship process. However, a real relationship consists of safe and solid friendships. If the relationship between spouses is healthy, their marriage and sexuality will be healthy. If there is a problem in the relationship, everything goes wrong.
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