Telling the end of life to the child, who represents the beginning of life, is a complex issue. Grief is our psychological response to any loss or change. Change of school for the child, divorce, change of city, termination of friendship, loss of pet, loss of favorite toy are also included in the law. It is healthier for children to meet the concept of death with pets or plants. The subject of death should not be left to the imagination of the child, and information should be transferred in accordance with his development. It should be told that people are born, live and die when the time comes. Parents should not blame themselves because death is a sudden event, there is often no opportunity for explanation preparation and it is a difficult process for adults as well. It is necessary to convey the truth to the child in a language suitable for his development. The news of death should be made by the person whom the child trusts and feels warm, calmly, by answering the child's questions. Changes can be made in the explanations according to the family's belief structure. For a faithful family, it can be said that angels take them to heaven through secret passages under the ground, or it can be said that after being buried in the ground, it becomes air and mixes with nature. There should be no exaggerated embellishment about heaven, the child may also want to go. In order to be able to explain in accordance with the child's level of knowledge about death before the explanation, "What happens when you die, what will happen now?" such questions can be asked. Transferring death to the child in the logic of place change will make it easier for him to understand. “Are you going to die too?” asked the parent who explained. When the question comes, "We can't choose the time for this ourselves, but I have no such intention for now, we will do this and that with you." You can make statements that are suitable for you, such as: If there is a question that you are not ready for, you can do some research and say that you can talk again in a few days, and you can talk on the day you agreed. Concretizing and transferring the process waiting for the child creates a safe environment. In adolescents, the perception of being betrayed, denial, and tendency to risky behaviors are expected behaviors. Addressing fears and anxieties in children and adolescents does not stem from the death or loss itself. It is important to give the assurance that he is not guilty and to listen carefully to the child and to get his feelings.
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