Today, as people become more conscious about their relationships, new words are emerging to describe relationship dynamics in the light of psychology. It is possible to hear these words frequently, especially in internet sharing or in relationships met through social media. You may have seen, or perhaps even experienced yourself, those who were “gaslighted” by their lover or “ghosted” by their flirts. Let's take a look at these new generation words that we have heard many times but whose meanings are still unclear to some of us.
You decide to get to know someone romantically, and the moment you start getting to know them, they almost have the whole world at your feet. He woke her up every morning with good morning messages, received beautiful gifts, and even told you how much he loved you. You weren't even sure if you knew each other well enough yet, but you still enjoyed feeling that love. Because this person did not make you feel his love, he was bombarding you with his love. This situation, called “lovebombing”, is a tactic used by the other party to bond you with them in the early stages of the relationship. Although a sufficient bond and intimacy has not been established yet, this person treats you as if you were the love of his life. In the later stages of the relationship, you suddenly start waiting for a message or a call from him for hours. You are waiting for a nice word to come out of the mouth of the person who tells you how much he loves you every day. This situation, which we call "breadcrumbing" and translated into Turkish as "breadcrumbs", is called leaving you in need of love crumbs. This situation, which is often seen as the next stage after "lovebombing", can make you dependent on the other party.
It is inevitable that there will be arguments and disagreements in every relationship. However, “gaslighting” takes place when the other party tries to impose their own mistakes on you, makes you doubt what you know and remember, and ignores your feelings and experiences by making various accusations against you. “gaslighting”, a type of manipulation, hear what you know right at the very beginning, whether you are too sensitive or not. It inquires whether it is wrong to open your gular. Such a discussion is far from being a healthy one where both sides can express themselves freely. In general, these people who paint an inauthentic portrait throughout the relationship in order not to bring up topics that are difficult to talk about or their own mistakes, also make their debut in the same way. This disappearance, which is done silently, without giving any explanation to the other party and almost completely ignoring its existence, is called "ghosting". This situation may make the abandoned party feel helpless, and it may also cause his head to be filled with question marks. However, these question marks generally remain unanswered.
Recognizing the warning signals used as "red flag" in English early helps us to understand when our relationship becomes unhealthy. Today, however, people are becoming more and more conscious about the relationships they live in and they are more careful about manipulations that may come from the other side.
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