Want to learn a new marriage trick today? Then I want to tell you about the work of doctor Neil J Lavender, the trick to stop the discussion instantly. Neil called it the "Stopper". If you're married or in a relationship, you definitely need the Stopper. Due to the nature of relationships, all couples can argue and fight from time to time. Sometimes things can get much worse.
There are some couples who manage and end these arguments and fights better than other couples. Of course, there are discussions due to human nature, but these discussions are not like 12-round boxing competitions.
These couples have the ability to quickly end arguments by using the "Stopper". “Stopper” is just one of those surprising little behaviors that require little effort but yield huge results. We can call these relationship cheats little keys. Remember, small keys open big doors. A good "Stopper" can keep an argument from escalating in less than five seconds.
How do you find "Stoppers" that work in your relationship? First, remember that "Stoppers" are extremely personal and unique. A "Stopper" that works for one couple probably won't work for another couple. What the couple has to do is find a "Stopper" that works for them. With a little thought and conversation, you can discover your own, and it's really worth a try.
Here are some examples to help you get started:
A newlywed couple was arguing constantly even though they were just 7 months into their marriage. As a result of endless arguments, one day her husband held her hand in the middle of one of the arguments. With this move, the argument suddenly ended and he continued to use it in the future.
A couple with eight children became intolerant of each other over the years and started to fight. Over time, couples realized that they could stop fights simply by hugging and hugging each other. Whenever the blood pressure rises, they hug and kiss each other.
A senior couple stopped arguments for over 40 years by asking the other if they wanted a cup of coffee. The power behind this is not just simplicity, but an invitation to get together and have fun again.
Simple and very easy, the "Stopper" is a small key that yields big results. You need to create your own “Stoppers”. Chances are, these "Stopper" examples won't work in your relationship. But they can get you started on your own ideas. One tip for discovering your "stopper" is to make it fun. Use your sense of humor. After all, what you're probably discussing is probably something trivial. Couples often end fights by sulking or doing silly things to each other.
A good Interceptor not only ends the argument, it also reminds you that you're a couple, thereby removing the atmosphere of hostility. After all, you are a teammate and a team. Everything can go well between you and Stopper and you can continue the wonderful journey of sharing life. What could be more important than that?
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