Everyone follows an order. Whose order is this? Whose wishes and desires does it consist of? Developed within the context of whose ideal lifestyle and cultural values? Are you actually living a life that makes everyone happy? Who has dreams in your lifetime? Is it really your own future that you have built or plan to build, or are you being compensated for someone's regrets, wishes or unfulfilled dreams?
People have expectations from us before we even come to life. May he be healthy, may his gender be the one we desire, may he continue our generation, may he be well-behaved, may he not cry too much, may his sleep pattern not be tiring... Your name is the name of your elders. This way, you will not forget where you came from, and you will have a sense of gratitude and respect for that person. You are expected to maintain their culture, view of life, values and live worthy of your name without bowing their heads. As time passes, expectations change. It takes a while for you to be successful in your classes. Then this expectation becomes even more comprehensive. Doctor, lawyer, teacher, police officer, pilot... You are asked to acquire that profession in the same way that the ideal life of those who raised you is achieved. Your family chooses the profession and you choose that profession. They need to be proud of you. A piece of themselves should make them experience this feeling, so that they experience it themselves. Then they expect you to find a spouse that suits your family and culture, or to marry the spouse candidate they deem most suitable for them. If you marry that person, they will be more proud of you. There will be more to this, of course. They ask you to give them a grandchild. Are you ready to raise an individual, are you sufficient for this? It doesn't matter to anyone. You just need to deliver what is expected. If you have fulfilled this, it means that you have done what suits your name, your family, your culture, congratulations.. So, do these suit you, do you find this life suitable for you? According to some people, you became a great man and had a respectable family life. Well, can you feel this? Is living for others what you really want in your only life? Others were happy, how about you? Are you satisfied with the life you live, or do you feel restless and disillusioned with life, as if something is missing, even though you have everything you want? Are you complaining about not being able to enjoy?
What do you think happens to the people who expect us when we do not meet or fail to meet people's expectations? Would they be upset, disappointed, would they not value you as much as they should, would you be less loved? Think about it, are you really responsible for these negative situations that may occur, or is this situation entirely related to people who have expectations?
When you get out of the cage you are in and try to discover the values that make you who you are, perhaps life will be more satisfying for you, where you can reach satisfaction, It starts to become happy and peaceful.
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