Attachment, while briefly explained as the emotional bond an individual establishes with others, begins in the first moments after birth. Behaviors such as sucking, touching, crying and laughing play a role in bonding. These tools for the baby are to establish relationships and create a safe base.
One of the most important tools in bonding is play. It does not have to be a toy for play. We can establish relationships with games anytime, anywhere and choose them as a safe way to connect. What the child needs is bonding, and this does not require expensive toys and planned places and times. Singing together in the car, high-fiving, imitating their voice in the bathroom.
It is important to accept the child's leadership in bonding games and carefully observe what needs he wants to express through the game.
Attachment is important. Types of games that develop:
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When playing child-centered games, you should place toys (puppets, dolls, wooden blocks, human figures, etc.) that will encourage the child's creativity and let the child direct the game. must. By playing child-centered games for half an hour at least once a week, parents strengthen the bond between the children by making them feel safe and loved.
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A certain topic or theme. Symbolic games involvingcan be used to work on the trauma experienced by the child. If your child wants to play hide and seek all the time after you've been away on a business trip for a week, play it. Keep in mind that he/she is trying to overcome the stress of being apart from you with this game, but do not talk to the child even if you notice this. Just play, think that he does not want to hear this, but to heal through play.
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Games in which the child has the power are recommended for children to get rid of painful feelings of disappointment, anger, powerlessness. . Parents allowing their children to be knocked down by having a pillow fight makes the child feel powerful.
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Cooperative games include creating a story together. With such an activity, the bond between them becomes stronger. Board games, tower puzzle games, sibling rivalry, parental separation It is supportive in the recovery of problems that arise after childbirth.
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Physical contact gamesBeing touched through games causes positive emotional inferences with the child's body. Children like to wrestle, hold hands and form a circle.
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The child can request games where he/she goes back in agewhen he/she has a sibling. If he starts talking like a baby, wrap him tightly in a blanket, tell him if he wants a bottle, and sing lullabies.
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