Dear clients, like every institution, the institution of marriage is going through various changes; Factors such as the change in the role of women, rapid marriage of people from different cultures, negative economic conditions, and divorce becoming more accepted and easier lead to an increase in marital problems and divorces. The fact that approximately one in every two or three married people gets divorced and that more than half of the non-divorced group expresses that they are unhappy, rightly raises the following question; Is marriage an illusion?
Think of it this way, you are offered a partnership, but there is a 50 percent chance that this company will go bankrupt, and even if it does not go bankrupt, there is a 50 percent chance that it will not bring you anything and will tire you out. Which one of you would be a partner in such a business? So, although there are similar possibilities in marriage, why do we mostly become partners in such an important institution with love and passion and high hopes? I think the most important answer to these questions is our needs and hopes. According to the concept of need, which is an important concept in psychology, "the most important need directs behavior". Since marriage is still the most accepted form of relationship, then let's take a look (hypothetically) at what needs the institution of marriage meets;
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Trust, security
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Love, sharing
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Sex? (regular and safe sex)
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Child
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Order
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The chance to do what you know
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Harmony with society (moving forward and giving meaning to life with an institution that is compatible with society, has rules and framework)
In addition to the above needs, considering issues such as the fact that unmarried people are also existentially unhappy or lonely, or how unhappy, guilty or regretful divorced people are compared to non-divorced people, why is the institution of marriage still the most important? The fact that it is a widespread relationship and lifestyle can be understood.
As a result, marriage is an institution that is difficult, but also seems indispensable in terms of the possibility of meeting a wide variety of needs. Divorce is an option, a decision that can only be taken as a result of good analysis, effort and therapy. Reconciling different perspectives, simple communication techniques, getting rid of the first 6 years of age, rebuilding respect and self-esteem. It is possible to have a more enjoyable and peaceful marriage by working on topics such as these. I wish you all a marriage full of respect, love and peace.
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