Rules for Setting Limits for Children

Of course, every parent loves their children very much and does everything for them, sacrifices themselves for their well-being, gives up their own needs to give their children what they want, and today, unfortunately, parents work harder and strive to raise happier and more self-confident children. .

Children have become individuals with high expectations, who are overprotected, who cannot liberate themselves or socialize, but who do almost anything they say. Families do whatever they want to give their children what they cannot have, to avoid hurting or depriving them, and not to embarrass them among their friends. Especially working parents cannot say no in order to show love to their children in order to suppress the guilt of not being able to spare time for their children.

If the parents first say "no" and then say "yes" to the child's behavior that is not possible at that moment. , the child will learn that persistence pays off. If we say no and take a step back when the child cries, screams and harms himself or the environment, we reward the child for these negative behaviors and these negative behaviors are reinforced. Later, the child will try these methods that have worked for him before, for every behavior we say no to.

It is as important as setting the rules and how much we comply with them as parents. Because children imitate and implement what we do rather than what we say. A parent who wants his child to be successful, study and read books, cannot set or enforce rules for the child if he constantly watches TV series or spends most of his time in front of the computer and phone.

So what should we do?

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The first step is to be a determined and consistent parent.

You should not give up in the face of your child's crying, shouting or tantrums, and you should not teach them that they can get their wishes done in this way.

You must teach that not every desire and need will come true immediately.

You must set fair and consistent limits. It should be valid everywhere.

Growing up in an orderly family with rules and implementing what is expected from them in society is important for the child's preparation for life.

We should show our love and care to our children, not by buying expensive toys or doing whatever they want, but by spending one-on-one quality time with them.

We should not forget. Children need a family that can show love and set consistent rules.

Happy children, for happy tomorrows…

 

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