Life was flowing differently for you in different bodies at the same time... In the same process, you were experiencing the realities differently. For some, the thought that 2.5 million people will take the exam on June 27-28 feels unbearably heavy; Some people colored their lives with the speed and intensity of the flow of reading, research, curiosity and learning. During this process, while pleasures become meaningless; On the other hand, you preferred to be invisible in some conversations, and those who could not get rid of their prejudices were waiting to experience the acceptance of the loss, unaware of thinking about shaking their minds...
A SHORT YKS FILTER
“ Gülden is a successful student. He usually gets high scores on exams and is in a well-ranked school. Every rule of his, starting with "I will never do it", left a mark wherever it touched his life; Being perfect has been his only choice in life. What is always on your mind; is to do the best in his life, many activities he started as a hobby have turned into a goal for him to achieve over time. However, he gets a low grade in the Physics course, which he took recently and thought he studied relatively hard, and thinks, "But I am a failure." The speed he gives to this thought is enough to create a huge pattern in his mind. At the same time, sadness and despair accompany his inner world... He works hard to turn abrasions into real tears, and does not neglect to feed negative thoughts... On the other hand, he keeps pouring gasoline on his inflamed emotions... He gets himself into such a dead end that; He is not even aware that he is spoiling the essence of his efforts in the current "Moment"... Due to the intensity of the agenda of disaster scenarios for the future, he cannot manage to turn the lens to the "Now"... "
When we get caught up in a small detail of the overall picture, we can fall prey to overwhelming emotions. Constantly filtering out positive memories, thoughts, and emotions is like adding salt to a bleeding wound. The body that constantly struggles with distress; Because his emotions such as anger, fear and sadness become too intense, he cannot feel emotions that are good for the soul, such as happiness and peace. This is due to the filtering we do without realizing it. ir. These filters may prevent us from spending our lives with sunglasses and seeing the colors that life offers us. Because Gülden filters her experience and prefers to focus on a single event and generalize, she may begin to develop a tendency to not consider herself worthy of a satisfying life. While this process may lead to shrinking with fears and ending with negative judgments; Growing up with thoughts can also turn into a choice of growing up with analysis. Because humans are creatures designed to develop.
Seeing the whole picture is called "The Opposite of Filtering". To see this picture, you can ask yourself these questions with your upcoming exam...
What happened?
What did I think and feel about this event (in detail)?
What evidence supports/contradicts my thoughts and feelings?
What is a way to handle this situation more reasonably and fairly and generate emotions and thoughts on it?
“What happened?” Golden received lower marks. If your thoughts filter a situation, you will only see the negative aspects of events and you may create negative thoughts and get negative emotions. The Big Picture gets overlooked and you may start to feel worse. For example, Gülden got angry at herself, thinking, "How stupid I am." If you have acted by seeing negativity throughout your life; So, if you have filtered, you can easily understand the intensity of the dominance of the emotions that overwhelm your soul. Gülden can find out why she is demoralized. He studied hard for the exam and got the worst grade in his life. The more difficult part is the "Contradiction" in the question that follows. When you look at what Gülden filtered; He is a student who is always appreciated and entered his school by winning a scholarship. This information contradicts what he thinks (I am a failure) and the emotion he feels (sadness and anger). Filtering the important elements of the big picture, Gülden may choose to focus on a single detail and drown.
Last question… “Stop and wait. think". Be fair and honest with yourself before reaching an opinion on a subject. Before you say "No Conflicting Evidence", consider that other facts may also exist. Just like in the Gülden example, obvious facts can change Gülden's current way of thinking and feelings. In the big picture, Gülden is successful.
By acquiring these skills, Gülden said, “I am disappointed, yes. Because I studied hard for the exam and the result was not as I expected. But this is just a bad note. "Most of my grades are good, I'm actually doing good work," he might say. Gülden should also ask herself: "What can I do to evaluate this situation in a healthier way?" The thoughts of a mind that does not enter into these processes narrow, as the thoughts narrow; Your ability to think may also decrease. With the help of a distance you place between yourself and failure and the emotions that accompany it, you ask yourself 'Why did I fail?' You can ask the question. This allows you to step back with less emotion and evaluate possible causes of failure.
ALTERNATIVES
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Everything you accomplish in life is within 150 meters. It's not an obstacle race... Such a perception may cause you to throw in the towel early. On the contrary, this path is a marathon run... It must be passed slowly, step by step, so that you do not give up, and then that path continues as long as you continue to breathe.
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Our successes in the past are not what we achieved by ourselves, but by discovering and improving ourselves along the way. Stopping and waiting will never end that path... However, if you don't quit when you are tired and rest; You can realize how meaningful life is to continue. (COVID19 Pandemic)
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Be sure about professions with low job prospects You can turn down the voices of the people around you who are making sentences and constantly breathing this breath into your consciousness. The life ahead of you is not this hopeless, yes, it is not this rosy either... The remaining period of your life is not this terrible, the environment that gives these suggestions is a bit cruel..
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Life is not just this exam, life is a path with multifaceted channels.... . Don't give up on your dreams just because your uncle, …… Aunt, …… Grandfather said you would be unemployed... You can be the person who will contribute to the development of the place you dream of.
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Dear 17-18 year olds... You haven't lived the best years of your life yet, rest assured that nothing is as HARD as the process you went through this year. Anything can happen to a person in 30 minutes or 30 seconds... THERE ARE MORE BEAUTIFUL YEARS YOU HAVE NOT LIVED.
And as my last sentence ends... There is no longer a life called IT WILL GO LIKE THIS...
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