The most frequently asked questions by families during adolescence, when many physical, mental, spiritual and social changes occur, are 'Why does my child behave like this?' Why so angry? There are questions that start with the word "why" and have difficulty finding the answer, such as "Why is this happening?" First of all, we should know that this is a process. Since change occurs suddenly and visibly in every field, it may seem foreign to you and you may feel helpless and unable to find a solution. However, the fact that adolescence is experienced is an indication that the individual has a healthy development process. So, if you ask what we can do to manage this process better, first of all, the more knowledge you have about the process, the stronger your hand will be.
A person does not enter puberty suddenly. Before puberty, there is a period we call puberty. For boys, this process begins at the age of 11-12, and for girls, this process may begin at the age of 10-11. Changes begin to be observed during pre-adolescence. Physically, hair growth may occur in the genital area and armpit. Enlargement of the genital organs in boys and breast enlargement in girls may occur. Height increases are observed in girls and boys. Mentally, a pre-adolescent individual can act without thinking. There may be an increase in their behavior to attract the attention of the opposite sex. An increase in his/her preoccupation with his/her physical appearance may be observed. They can be easily angered and offended emotionally. You can reproach him by describing him as more introverted and saying that he always spends time in his room and that he has nothing to do with us. Socially, the concept of friends is very important. Being included in a social group is very important for them and they may want to spend most of their time communicating with their friends.
Adolescence begins around the age of 13 in girls and around the age of 14 in boys. There is a significant deepening of men's voices. Skin thickening, acne, increased facial hair and a rough appearance are observed. For girls, physical changes such as menstruation and acne may occur. In addition, both girls and boys experience an increase in the intensity of emotions, a feeling of insecurity, being excessively dreamy, opposing authority, falling in love, reluctance to work and responsibilities, and self-centered thinking. The temperature can be observed. They may want to be alone and complain about loneliness, or they may get angry and not want to explain themselves because they say you don't understand me. This mindset can cause communication problems in the family and social environment. So what should be done?
As a first step, giving the message that we are a team will help the adolescent feel that he is not alone and that he is accepted. When he shares an idea with you, listening to him by giving the message that I understand and listen to you instead of rejecting and ignoring the thought, no matter how ridiculous it may seem to you, respecting his ideas and seeing him as an individual, helps him strengthen his bond and relationship with you and supports his gain in self-confidence. In addition, supporting the adolescent in developing a hobby will support his social relationships and help him find a purpose. Finally, the individual experiencing adolescence feels both ashamed and proud of his changing and developing body. He may feel confused because he experiences these feelings together. As a parent, being aware of this situation and helping the child love himself and be at peace with himself helps the adolescent normalize the process.
Despite this, if you still have arguments at home every day, are very unhappy, have no appetite-sleep routine, cry all the time, and say that you have completely shut yourself off from us, getting help from an expert will make the process go more smoothly.
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