ANGER MANAGEMENT
Anger, like other emotions, is an emotion that has an important place in our lives. It is a universal emotion that is experienced differently in every culture.
Anger is a situation in which intense physiological arousal is experienced, accompanied by thoughts of hostility and labeled as anger.
The functional dimension of anger is overlooked by considering it to be a negative emotion. If anger is experienced and controlled in a healthy way: It has a regulating, stimulating, protective and activating function in interpersonal communication. When anger is expressed uncontrollably, people prefer not to express it (suppressed) due to the situations they encounter or cultural reasons. Suppressed anger can cause many physical disorders such as high blood pressure, coronary artery disease and cancer.
The feeling of anger can cause the person to experience relationship conflicts.
Anger can be associated with psychiatric disorders such as depression and anxiety. Difficult life events can cause intense anger, although it has been observed that Feelings of anger can cause overeating behaviors in women; It can cause bulimic and anrexic attitudes in young people during adolescence.
Anger arises in relation to three main objects: the person himself, others and what happens to him, that is, the world he lives in.
How Can Anger Be Managed?
- Before you react:
- Where am I?
- Who am I with?
- What's the timing?
- What is going on?
- What is going on in my mind?
- What meaning did I give to this event?
- What do I expect?
- What am I doing? ?
- Will what I do get me the result I want?
Directing questions to ourselves helps us gain awareness.
- The people and situations to which anger is attached. It is important to realize our expectations towards others.
- Effective problem-solving skills specific to the person can be developed.
- Even if you are not angry, if the other person is angry, realize that their expressions may not be realistic and postpone communication. Postponing the meeting or communication in times of anger, It is healthy to manage the process with your own coping methods and then communicate.
- In times of anger, people have difficulty making judgments. For this reason, it would be healthy not to personalize events.
- It would be comforting to have average expressions in the mindset instead of expressions that show two extremes such as “all or nothing”, never-always”.
- The feeling of anger and Information about how you felt just before the behavior is important. Emotions such as anger and resentment; It can secondary to basic emotions such as hurt, offense, resentment, not being understood, rejection, frustration, fear, anxiety, disappointment and loneliness.
- It will be useful to identify the emotions that make you uneasy instead of avoiding them.
- Realizing the meaning of the emotions that accompany your anger will be much healthier with the support of a psychologist.
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