The living, naturally authentic, creative part of the self is defined as the real self. The baby is not strong enough to meet his needs by nature and demands the mother to take care of him. In this period, the mother's being sensitive to the baby's needs and meeting them appropriately and adequately allow the baby to reveal his true self. He may not have adequately experienced all the sense of power that exists. In addition, instead of "being" (the mother's unresponsiveness to the baby's needs, her rejection means death), she begins to "react" to the outside world. This means that the baby is forced to adapt to the mother instead of the mother to the baby, and the baby takes the first steps in creating a false self instead of being himself. The purpose here is to hide the real self.
Winnicott defined the narcissistic personality, the grandiose false self and the defensive person by distinguishing between the real and false self concept.
In addition, Freud, the person's vulnerability to hurt He defined a defensive approach that he showed against his sense of self as narcissism and stated that these people lack the ability to regulate their self-concept due to the repetition of early traumatic experiences. Fragile narcissism, which is the opposite of the known aspects of narcissism, includes features such as extreme modesty, sensitivity to criticism, high level of anxiety, shyness, being under constant stress, thinking that one is suffering, and grandiose expectations about the self that can be noticed in close relationships with others.
The child creates mental representations/records about himself and other people as a result of the relationship he establishes with his caregivers in the first developmental period. In these records, he has many exemplary experiences about whether the people who are important to him will reject him or whether he will meet his needs, and the child makes some generalizations / expectations as a result. The caregiver, the mother's rejection of the child's needs, Emotionally cold and distant, the child's self worthless and unloved; make people insensitive and inaccessible causes it to save. In other words, the child who develops a relationship style based on insecurity has a belief that his/her self is worthless, that others will not accept or support him/her. He perceives himself as so worthless and inadequate that it is out of the question for him to make a suggestion or demand anything, who is he? He thinks that he does not deserve to be supported and to have his needs met. This person constantly needs approval from the other and avoids getting close because of the fear of abandonment/rejection. This sensitivity stems from the experiences of important people and caregivers, in other words rejection, in which the expectations that are experienced in the early period, the duration of the effect is prolonged or enhanced. Through experiences like these, the child expects to experience rejection in relationships with which he is close, and by taking steps to realize this unconscious expectation, he creates the reject-rejected binary system. They become individuals who experience intense emotional turmoil and show skepticism in their future relationships.
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