Young people decide to get married in a hurry, saying "I think I'm in love" with the person they know in a short time, and then unfortunately they encounter many disappointments. Because the visual impairment caused by love improves with marriage and they begin to see the truth.
Especially in the first years of their marriage, they become the subject of hundreds of divorce cases under the title of "Severe Disagreement" because they do not know each other well enough or cannot see each other as they want to see in line with their own needs.
Of course, you meet hundreds of people by chance, whether in education, work or social environments, you are attracted to only one of them and you decide to marry the person you will spend your life with.
However, this is important. Before making the decision, do you believe that you have chosen the right partner? Because this important decision you will make;
- Who you will spend your next life with,
- The new responsibilities or problems that await you,
- The satisfaction of your emotional, social and sexual life. ,
- It will determine what kind of mother and father your child will grow up with,
- Most importantly, with whom you will grow old.
Selection of a spouse is not a random process that can be left to chance.
For all these reasons, marriage is the first step of the family, which is the pillar of society. It is not an institution that can be left to chance; These foundations should be laid with love, affection and consciousness.
First, you should realize your personality traits, your expectations from marriage, what you want and do not want from your spouse, and know yourself well. Then you should take steps to get to know the other person. You will need at least 6 months to get to know each other.
Ask Yourself These When Choosing a Spouse!
- Do I feel ready to get married?
- Am I ready to take on the responsibilities that come with marriage?
- Do I get married with love, affection and desire, or do I see it as a haven just to escape from my family or the problems I'm experiencing?
- Against that? Do I have love and respect?
- Do I find her physically and sexually attractive enough?
- Do I respect her opinions?
- Do I? Will I be able to give him the freedom to be himself without forcing or suffocating him?
- Can I express my feelings and thoughts to him clearly?
- Do I believe that I can cope with the problems that may arise in our marriage?
- Do I know enough about his family and background?
- Do I know the possible differences in our family structure, customs and traditions, and religious beliefs? Am I ready for the problems and solutions that these differences may cause?
- Do I have the potential to be a parent to the child I will raise?
I answered "yes" to at least half of these questions. If you said ”, you may think you are ready to get married.
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