The ability of individuals to make sense of the behavior of others in their relationships and to respond appropriately to what is happening is called "Social skill". The importance of communication and interaction within the concept of social skills cannot be denied.
Social development is divided into periods. The emotional and academic needs of the child may change depending on age and period. In the pre-school period, children prefer friends of the same sex to friends of the opposite sex, etc. Peer relationships play a big role in children's development. Intense relationships with peers during the development process provide many environments for the child to demonstrate adequate social adaptation and acquire the necessary social skills. It is very important to consider the development and functions of peer relationships here.
PEER RELATIONSHIPS
Peer relationships are a phenomenon that has been going on since the first years of life. Babies are born in the first six months of life. While it does not have a perception of the environment, it initiates a relationship with the other individual by looking and touching after 6 months. Child interactions increase between the ages of 2-4. During this period, the child begins to spend time with their peers without close intervention. As children develop their social areas, they begin to interact more with their peers.
HOW TO DEVELOP SOCIAL SKILLS?
Parents who cannot fully read their children's emotions hinder the development of their children's problem-solving skills. Self-play With the acquisition of the ability to play and build, the child begins to become ready to take his or her own social initiatives. All supportive and thought-provoking activities are elements that support the child's social development. The lack of communication and interaction between students and teachers during school years is also reflected in the effectiveness of teaching. During the education process; It is necessary to convey to children that 'learning to think' is among the real purposes of learning. As soon as children begin to see 'teaching' as a 'task given by others', they become reluctant not only in learning, but also in taking individual responsibilities, and they may fall behind in taking responsibility. And it's a cycle boy It creates a serious reluctance in the student's homework performance and academic success. Thinking system; learning is shaped by learning processes and behaviors.
RECOMMENDATIONS FOR PARENTS IN THE DEVELOPMENT OF THE CHILD'S SOCIAL SKILLS;
Social development is at least as important as other developments in the child's life. It is as important as the stages of development. The skill of "adaptation", which will become increasingly important in an individual's life, is a skill acquired in childhood and during the social development process. The child's social behavior should be understood and shaped by the feedback given by the family and friends with whom he interacts.
Children's ability to compete in their relationships with their peers and to encounter all kinds of anxiety-provoking and negative situations increases their coping skills. Such relationships are a need rather than a negativity in order to develop social skills. It is necessary to think that children who prefer people older or younger than themselves have problems with establishing and maintaining social relationships, and a solution must be sought. Establishing relationships with people older than their age facilitates the relationship. Children who establish relationships with people younger than their own age generally make this choice due to the need to play and rule the rules.
The basis of social development is that the child gets to know the outside world with the help of his mother in his infancy and meets his needs. A relationship in which the child realizes that he is understood and welcomed, and a secure attachment is established, affects the child's emotional and social development as well as his cognitive development. Establishing an emotional relationship and contact with the child is the most basic building block of social relationship. Social relationship building skills are created by taking examples from the representations of individuals within the family. "Imitation", the strongest learning style of early childhood, is an important element in socialization.
WHAT IS SOCIAL SKILL DEFICIENCY?
Social skill deficiency is an individual's ability to develop various social skills. It is the lack of skills or the inability to use the skills in appropriate environments or situations even though they have them. Lack of social skills, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, learning disability, social anxiety It is seen more clearly in children with oppositional defiant disorder, anger management problems, pervasive developmental disorder, adaptation and behavioral problems, and developmental delay. However, even if the child does not have these problems, he or she may experience a lack of social skills. Children with lack of social skills may feel unhappy and act anxious, excited or angry in the social environments they enter.
HOW CAN LACK OF SOCIAL SKILLS IN A CHILD BE UNDERSTOOD?
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Lack of self-confidence
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Having trouble starting and continuing a conversation
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Problems in friendship
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Difficulty and stress in entering social environments
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Not listening to what is said
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Following rules at home or school not complying
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Not expressing one's wishes and thoughts
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Difficulty expressing oneself in public speaking
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Not being able to protect and defend your rights.
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Not being able to control your anger.
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Having trouble solving your problems.
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Making poor eye contact
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Inability to understand and express emotions,
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Inability to empathize
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Inability to cope with being ridiculed
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Having trouble planning time and organizing
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Inability to join peer groups.
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Inability to cope with the feeling of jealousy.
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Inability to do homework.
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Not respecting the rights of others.
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Not helping and sharing
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Behaving aggressively towards those around him. etc.
METHODS THAT CAN BE USED IN SOCIAL SKILLS TRAINING:
In social skills, non-verbal communication is as important as verbal. Tone of voice, Speaking, reactions, self-expression, fluent and effective communication, greeting, reaction, etc. are among the personal and social problem solving skills. It is possible to compensate and regulate the lack of skills in this field with behavioral techniques.
Basic social skills support: social relations, body posture, facial expression, etc.
Learning from the model: Children complete the observation and learning processes from adults through observation and imitation of others and gestures.
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