Many people have lost the power of the present moment. They either mourn their past, struggle with endless "if onlys", or occupy themselves with future plans.
However, people can only find the power to influence and perhaps change their destiny now and here, that is, in the moment and place they live in.
Sometimes, a person becomes a person who is in the autumn of his life and takes stock of his past; sometimes, he becomes a young person on the eve of an important exam for him and finds himself in the middle of a dysfunctional anxiety, thinking that his life is at a crossroads.
Our minds are always on edge. In one corner of our lives, we either have regrets from previous periods of our lives, unfinished work, or plans that have not yet started but have already started to be lived and even finalized in our dreams. Whatever its name, our unfinished work or our plans that have just begun prevent us from realizing the resources around us, living and evaluating the moment.
Of course, we should learn lessons from our past. For change, we must own our mistakes and shortcomings and thus increase our level of awareness. However, if we do this by staying stuck in the past and turning our attention completely to what we left behind, we will waste all our energy, and after a while, feelings of guilt and regret will cover our entire being. That's when we move away from the power of the moment and become someone who constantly lives with the negativities of the past.
In addition, when we move away from the present and are constantly busy with the future, the anxiety of events that have not yet happened begins to disturb us. Constantly trying to think one step ahead causes us to develop a two-possibility perspective on events after a while. We start making black and white sentences such as "To pass the exam or not to pass", "To succeed or not to succeed in this job", "To be or not to be" and gray has lost its importance for us.
However, even a second later is not available to us. The ability to see is not given. We cannot know what life offers us until we experience it. Focusing on "now" instead of constantly thinking about one step before or after takes us forward and carries us to tomorrow.
Living in the moment does not mean living one day at a time or experiencing joy and sorrow. around us It means noticing, evaluating and digesting what we experience, and being responsible for our feelings, thoughts and behaviors.
Only if we feel and own our emotions, thoughts and behaviors in the moment we experience them, can we change and build a healthy future, and leave a past that makes us smile when we look back. 900 years ago, the Iranian poet Omar Khayyam (1048-1131), famous for his rubai, expressed this concept very simply:
See the thousand and one troubles under this dome; see the world;
Don't waste a single breath without knowing yourself;
Let go of tomorrow, yesterday, see the moment you are living in.
We will know when our life, which is spent constantly focusing on yesterday or tomorrow, will end, which day of ours will end. We don't know what the day will be.
Now think about it. If today was your last day when you woke up, what would you do, how would you like to spend it? Would you treat your parents or loved ones badly, knowing that it was your last day, or would you postpone a fun day that your spouse or child has wanted to have for a long time?
How do you know today is not your last day?
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