Vaginismus. In short, the inability to have intercourse.
There are no healthy statistics on this subject in Turkey. Since the statistics in the world cannot reflect our country, I did not find it appropriate to write here because the concept of sexual freedom in western countries significantly reduces the incidence of this disease. In closed eastern societies. This rate is high. What I can say from my professional experience is that it is seen in an average of 3 out of a hundred couples.
The muscles of the front third of the vagina contract involuntarily. It does not allow the penis to enter the vagina. At first, the woman who reacts by pushing her partner, closing her legs, trembling and contracting The husband, who is understanding, starts to get angry and rebel against this situation after a while. He thinks that he is not loved. He blames his wife. Things escalate with the involvement of families. The woman feels inadequate and guilty. No matter how much she loves her husband, she is strongly afraid of having a relationship. The abuse she has experienced in the past. or rape, the exaggerated first night stories he heard from family elders have settled in his lower self. He cannot dismantle these fears. He cannot share this situation with anyone.
Those who live in small cities and couples who do not have the chance to go to the doctor live like this for years. They give up trying to have a relationship after a while. .Those who become pregnant by chance can have a baby by cesarean section. At least they can hide their condition more easily by getting rid of social pressure.
Those who try to get treatment in the wrong hands face other problems while waiting for improvement for years. A doctor friend of mine complains of vaginismus and drinks some alcohol to relax before intercourse. He painfully explained that a woman who was recommended to take the drug was an alcoholic and that her husband gave up on the relationship and was trying to solve this problem.
Those who think that they will be treated by removing the hymen are also greatly disappointed. The hymen is removed for two reasons. The first reason is that it is too thick and closed to allow intercourse. Hymens. The second reason is those who have fixed the idea that the hymen prevents intercourse in their ego.
In many centers, psychologists and psychiatrists treat sexual dysfunctions together with their partner in 8-10 sessions. After getting rid of the fears in the lower self with psychotherapy, it is possible to get rid of this big problem by prolonging foreplay, massages, finger exercises, kegel exercises, mastering the vaginal muscles, and breathing exercises.
With the improvement of sexual life, many couples save their homes from collapse. , having children, and most importantly, being happy by experiencing sexuality, which is an important part of marriage.
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