In both cases, parents have a great responsibility. Just as it is necessary not to exaggerate success and shower the child with gifts, it is also necessary to avoid physical and psychological violence against the child with poor grades. Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist Dr. Özlem Şireli stated that the report card reflects the average of the course grades the child received throughout the year at the end of the semester, and that it does not fully reflect the child's knowledge, skills or competencies and said, "Poor grades should not be considered as a child's failure. Both children and adolescents need to feel accepted and supported by their parents. "Heavy criticism, humiliating attitudes and punishments will create a feeling of rejection in children, which will be reflected in later stages of life and will cause the development of negative personality patterns such as lack of self-confidence and feelings of inadequacy," he said, adding that it should not be forgotten that children need the supportive attitudes of their parents at all times, including the report card period. emphasizes the need. Undoubtedly, many of you are saying, "Okay, but his report card is weak, how should we treat him now?"
1.Do not ignore his success
Low report card grades; Parents' failure to recognize the child's efforts during the school period should not result in their not being supported. Even if the report card grades are not as parents wish, they should make their children feel that they see and appreciate their efforts.
2. Do not act punitively
If a child who is upset because of his low grades sees a punitive attitude from his parents, he may experience feelings of inadequacy that he will have difficulty coping with, and may develop behavioral problems. Parents who are disappointed with bad report card grades should consider this as a complete failure of the child and avoid making accusations and criticisms about the child's personality.
3. Make self-criticism
Parents; In order for the child to be successful at school, sufficient information is provided about meeting his/her basic needs, providing a suitable study environment, whether the child makes regular school visits, whether he or she is in contact with his teacher, the child's adaptation at school, and his difficulties in the lesson. It is necessary for them to review whether they have a child or not, and to take compensatory initiatives on the issues they see as deficiencies.
4. Identify the areas where the child has difficulties
Parents; Apart from report card grades and teachers' feedback, listening to the child and trying to understand him/her and determining the areas in which he/she has difficulty, and obtaining alternative solutions in areas where the child is inadequate, by getting help from both teachers and guidance services, will increase the child's success.
5 . Prioritize the holiday need
A bad report card should not cause the child's holiday need to be ignored. A holiday period where the child can do what he wants and have fun; It is necessary for the child to gain energy and start the new school year in a motivated way. With parents and child; The child's holiday needs should be prioritized in the work program prepared to compensate for the areas in which the child is inadequate.
6. Support their special abilities and interests
Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist Dr. Özlem Şireli draws attention to the importance of supporting the areas in which children fail, as well as identifying and supporting their success and strengths, and says, "Supporting special talents and interests will both increase the child's motivation and increase the self-confidence of the child who feels accepted and appreciated."
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