Overgiving, protective and extremely undisciplined attitude: In this attitude, love and
indiscipline are two extremes. Little is expected from the child and discipline
is not applied. No matter how much the child grows, the family always tends to give and protect him, as in the early years
. A child raised in this style has difficulty taking responsibility. He may have difficulty knowing his limits
and may have self-confidence problems. A consequence of overprotectiveness may be excessive
indulgence and pampering, and this time the child begins to manage his/her parents
. These children become spoiled, selfish, do not give rights to others
and bore those around them with endless demands.
Indifferent and extremely undisciplined attitude: In this attitude, the child does not receive enough love
and care and is forced to become independent at an age when he is not ready. This
attitude can also be called a rejecting attitude. The child is deprived of the feeling of seeing himself as valuable. Children with this attitude have difficulty in expressing their feelings
Over-giving, protective and over-disciplined, controlled attitude: Love is over-giving.
And it is presented with a protective behavior. However, even though the child is cared for like a baby, there are many expectations from him. When these expectations are presented with love
, they are easily adopted by children and digested into the self
. The child with this type of attitude puts excessive control over himself and may have difficulty understanding others.
The child can follow the rules and be careful
. But he may develop a personality that is timid and unable to make his own decisions.
Unbalanced and indecisive attitude: Sometimes when faced with the child's behavior
“Yes” Sometimes saying "No" causes the child to be unable to distinguish between right and wrong.
The child does not know how to act in the face of unstable and inconsistent behavior. Because the behavior in this situation would have been unacceptable behavior
in another situation. In this situation, the child will experience internal conflicts and unrest. In the face of this attitude
he will begin to show inconsistent and unstable behavior.
Inconsistency between the attitudes of the mother and father: In this attitude, the mother has a different attitude towards the child and the father has a different attitude towards the child. In order to maintain the limits placed on the child
, the parents must
be consistent in their behavior.
The child's self-concept depends on what the adults who are important to him/her show him/p>
Since it is a reflection of attitudes, negative attitudes from parents may result in the child feeling worthless.
The child who is not rewarded and supported when he/she performs the desired behaviors
has increasing difficulty in distinguishing between approved and disapproved behaviors.
In addition to all these attitudes, There is another attitude that ensures the child's healthy personality development
:
Reassuring, Tolerant – Democratic Family Attitude:
It is essential to give unconditional love to the child. Democratic parents respect the child
as a human being. He accepts that every child has his own characteristics of pleasure and does not make comparisons between sisters, brothers and siblings. It allows the child to reveal his/her talents at the best level and realize himself/herself. It introduces principles instead of strict rules and explains the reasons for these principles. It aims to develop the child's
self-discipline. It ensures that an entrepreneurial, responsible child grows up
.
The child is taught limits and it is aimed to be free and have a say within these limits
. The child's opinion is also taken into account when making decisions on various issues.
In the democratic parenting attitude, there is harmony between spouses. A common attitude
is displayed. Children growing up in such an environment grow up to be independent, self-confident,
high self-esteem, responsible individuals.
Knowingly or unknowingly, each parent's attitude towards their children is different
may happen. Some children are loved more, some are pressured
, and some are seen as unloved and unwanted children.
All these attitudes affect both the child's personality and social development.
It causes it to gain different forms.
You, as a parent; partnership In order to raise creative, conscientious individuals who are well-disposed, enjoy working, love themselves and
other people, in a caring
and balanced environment, where responsibilities are shared and tolerance prevails
With a democratic attitude, you can raise sensitive, balanced and healthy children
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