With just a few days left before we enter a new year, most people self-evaluate the past year and make new resolutions for the new year. As we enter a new year, it is possible to identify our thinking mistakes and try to leave them behind, in a sense, to detox mentally. Expert Psychologist Seliyha Doşmaz gave tips to renew our soul in the new year.
1- FILTRATION
Stop focusing only on the negatives and excluding the positives instead of seeing the whole picture. When you experience something that bothers you, try to see the event in its positive and negative aspects, just like a fair judge.
2-ALL OR NOTHING
Events and people Do not polarize such things as "it is either good or bad" or "it is either black or white".
3- OVERGENERALIZATION
Do not generalize from a single negative evidence to the whole or exceed your expectations from yourself. Do not create it with a single negative evidence. Leave aside overgeneralizing thoughts such as “Once something goes wrong, there will always be trouble”.
4- MIND READING
Mind others' minds. stop reading. Especially if you believe that you know exactly what others feel and think about you; It means you are reading minds. Remember that there is always a margin of error when it comes to other people's thoughts and feelings.
5-CATASTROZIZATION
If you constantly make negative predictions about the future, constantly expect disaster or If you write disaster scenarios saying "what if", it means you are making exaggerated comments when evaluating the events. Think of events that you were afraid of happening in the past but somehow never happened or that you could cope with even if they did happen. So don't let bad scenarios scare you. Remember, we cannot take precautions for some events in life. It has to happen first.
6-PERSONALIZATION
Do not personalize events by blaming yourself for the reasons for people's verbal or non-verbal behavior without taking into account different reasons.
7- REASONING BASED ON EMOTIONS
Your emotions reflect the truth It is not true. You may believe that you can't cope, but that doesn't mean you can't. Try to give up rules ending in strong>. Trying to think "I don't want to be like this" instead of "I shouldn't be like this" is a way of thinking that accelerates change. When you realize your normative thoughts about an event, try to relax them.
9-LABELING
Stop labeling yourself and others with judgmental and negative adjectives.
10- DON'T INVALID THE POSITIVE
Stop telling yourself that positive deeds or experiences are invalid. Always; attribute your achievements to “external and changeable” situations (such as I got high marks because the exam was easy); If you attribute your failures to "internal and immutable" characteristics (I have difficulty because I am not smart enough), it means you are invalidating the positive.
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