Hello everyone. In this article, I would like to talk to you about losses and our emotional reactions to these losses.
The words I heard from many of my clients and people around me as a result of the earthquakes we experienced recently were: “How are we going to continue from now on? How do we normalize? It feels guilty to be happy as before.”
Even though many of us have returned to our daily lives after the earthquake, I guess these questions are always struggling in the back of our minds. Yes, nothing will ever be the same again. However, nothing has to be worse than before.
Whenever we experience an event that exceeds our cognitive and emotional capacity, we begin to activate various mechanisms that will adapt to it physically and mentally. Our reactions are sometimes conscious and sometimes unconscious. The important thing is to realize that there is no specific pattern of our reactions in such situations, and that each reaction is as unique as our fingerprints.
Yes, it is somewhere that we return to our "normal" life while people who have experienced a traumatic event are struggling to hold on to life. can trigger feelings of guilt. However, we should also consider this: No person who has experienced an earthquake closely experiences anxiety, depression and trauma symptoms every second. It is also a mistake to place the experiences of these people in a fixed place specific to earthquakes. Such an approach causes us to see the lives of people who have had a traumatic experience as consisting solely of this trauma. and it provides a better view of the moments when the motivation to continue living is diverse. Sometimes it is also possible not to give a specific response that is associated with a specific event. The important thing at this point is to see how useful these reactions are for the individual's cognitive and emotional coping and adaptation to his life at a functional point.
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