Our emotions make us who we are. We see with them and find our way with them. Every emotion has a place where it takes us, it protects us, matures us and heals us. Whatever emotion we are experiencing, we must first accept it as it is, value it, and then give it its due. We must know him, know why he came and find out where he is going.
"I'm a little scared these days." So let's recognize fear. What happens when we are afraid, what do we want to happen? What do we want to encounter, what do we want to happen in life? Why did this feeling arise now? Maybe we want it to end, but can we understand it?
Fear is our emotion responsible for our security. Our police chief. Imagine what would happen if we weren't afraid... We could run into many dangers, do unsafe things, and get into trouble. It is good to be a little afraid, it keeps people safe...
When we perceive a danger, we become afraid and this feeling accompanies us until the moment we feel safe. Situations, things and people that we do not know can also create a perception of danger in us. It is dark because we cannot see. As our knowledge and experience increases, our fears decrease. That's why we can name new acquaintances, describe new situations, compare them to something, and feel relieved if they seem familiar... If we can keep new situations under control and feel that we have the power, we feel at ease. For example, if this is a natural event that we cannot control, if it reminds us of death that we cannot control and that we do not know when it will come, the anxiety increases. Anxiety is contagious.
If the parent is anxious, this is passed on to the child. Because if the voice/style/form describing what is happening is anxious, this feeds the anxiety in the person listening. Anxiety is slightly different from fear. While fear has a clear, concrete, objective threat, anxiety is completely personal. While the fear they make our body feel is similar, the way we live in our minds is extremely different.
Children cannot regulate their emotions. When they are worried, they show it in ways (that we don't like) such as screaming, crying, and being moody. Parents sometimes show ignoring reactions such as "shut up", "don't cry", "don't get grumpy", "calm down". So what will happen to this feeling that the child experiences? What will he do with this feeling? Honestly eat one The adult can regulate his own emotions. In other words, he can experience his emotions in a healthy way and express them without harming anyone. Sometimes we see that adults cannot control their emotions either. If this happens frequently, it can cause serious problems. What happens when a young child is burdened with his or her parent's worry while he or she is worried? Children who have a parent who suffers from anxiety disorders in early childhood, who cannot regulate their emotions, or who frequently behaves inconsistently, pay a heavy price for this. Rejecting and humiliating behaviors and an uncertain environment at home cause the child to be confused and develop anxiety. This feeling comes from the soil of your life and is passed on through generations. Life is pregnant with worries, not miracles, and worries bring despair. He does not trust the outside world, expects evil and develops hostile feelings. To cope with this, he may develop an avoidance response; Avoids situations that cause anxiety. Another coping method is to ignore. Selectively ignores worrisome situations as if everything is fine. Someone who seems very calm on the outside may actually be experiencing great anxiety inside.
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