Life is literally a combination of what happens to us, how what happens to us makes us feel, and how we react to it. We cannot directly determine many things that will happen. Of course, what we cause and what we prefer exists. But most of the time, we only experience the event that happens to us or are in the situation. If all of this is true for all of us, how come some people can be happier, stronger or more successful in life? What is our distinguishing point?
The ability to manage our feelings and shape our reactions. Although situations such as divorce, bankruptcy, loss, and accident can have a devastating impact on many people's lives, all of these are for all of us. No event is personal. You should definitely be sure that someone else has experienced this and is still experiencing it. But pain is personal. That is, the intensity of our feelings about what happened. There are many joyful occasions such as weddings, births and graduations. While no one complains about positive emotions, why did this happen to me, most people complain about situations that create negative emotions, like why did this happen to me? However, all positive or negative emotions are unique to humans. First of all, denying pain and unhappiness will lead to different problems in the long run. A person should accept and embrace all unique emotions. One should not be afraid of being happy or feeling pain. After accepting all emotions, the best thing to do to manage them is to measure their intensity with a sensitive scale. At this point, your sensitive scale is always your mind. The lack or excess of all emotions creates a psychological problem. There are emotions appropriate to stereotyped situations.
The normal and appropriate thing after the loss of a loved one is, of course, feeling sad. It is about accepting and living the sadness. However, the distinguishing point is to spread this intensively throughout your life and to break away from life over time. Every happier, stronger and more successful person manages the intensity of his emotions tremendously, not only in critical situations but in every minute of his life. Shame, anger, pleasure... He does not become a slave to any emotion and does not allow it to take over him and his life. In this way, he has the capacity to create the most necessary and appropriate reaction for himself and that moment. We give Reactions shape the next events we experience. A person who breaks this chain cycle once has taken a big step towards achieving a happier and more serene life.
I present it to your attention carefully. Not a happy life, but a happier life. Because the individual who takes this step accepts and embraces all emotions, as we have just mentioned, he does not open himself up to disappointments with the mere utopia of a happy life. His goal is to live a happier and more healing life than he already has.
Which one will have a happier life: an individual who goes through the divorce process with his wife in a very reasonable manner and accepts that his life will go differently, or an individual who is in the grip of great anger and clings to denial? does it get? I think we see that the first option is the healthiest.
The spouse model in the second option, who cannot manage his emotions, will choose a path that is destructive for everyone, regardless of man or woman, with his actions and statements, and will attract the continuation of negative situations towards himself. Many examples can be given about this.
A person who has achieved the ability to manage all emotions can improve his own mental health, his life and his life by intensifying healing emotions such as love, appreciation, curiosity, excitement, determination, joy and trust, which will build a better life. It can shape everyone's health.
With the healthy reactions they give, they have reached the best version of themselves!
They now carry a positive magnet in their souls about what will happen to them. They are on a pleasant journey with the comfort of passing the exam by fighting the same struggle that others struggle with life. By managing themselves, they manage their world.
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