There are some issues that parents complain about in their relationship with their children. Sentences such as he does not listen to me, does not understand me, does not leave me, does not love me, goes to other people are among the situations that disturb both the child and the family. Here, the relationship that the caregiver establishes with the baby is very important. While we think that the problem is in the child, sometimes the problem is due to the wrong type of relationship that the caregiver establishes with the child. Attachment types vary according to their needs, crying reactions, hunger and the response time to this hunger, responsibilities of the caregiver such as skin contact when the child is restless, how and how quickly and how consistently they are reacted in these need situations. This relationship between the baby and the caregiver can be adversely affected in many ways. The fact that the caregiver makes the child experience this negativity will affect the attachment types between the child and the caregiver.
Secure Attachment
The caregiver's meeting the child's needs is a consistent way. Following her will help her develop a secure attachment type. In establishing such a bond, the child's primary caregiver's sensitivity, availability and loving attitudes towards the child's needs have an important contribution (Bowlby, 1988). will make it impossible to obtain. A child who has been exposed to external neglect and abuse may think that the caregiver is unable to protect him and that the environment and people are unreliable. Because of this, the child has anxiety. This type of attachment is mostly established by parents who act in accordance with the needs of the child in some cases, do not behave in some cases, have a separation with the child, respond to the needs of the child with a delayed delay, and threaten to leave him, especially in order to prevent the child from doing the behavior that he or she does not want. (Bowlby, 1988).
The child who has been neglected by his/her parents in childhood traumas may experience problems such as separation anxiety, overcompensatory behaviors, depression, and anxiety disorders in their adulthood. The child, who is worried that the caregiver will leave and that his needs will not be met, may experience anxiety about abandonment and being unloved in adult romantic relationships. It may take a lot of effort to avoid separation and to be loved. The abandonment of the child by the caregiver as a child may enter the child's mindset that people are unreliable. Another factor is that the child blames himself and may think that he left because of himself. In adult relationships, the person may show excessive compensatory behaviors in order not to lose their partner.
Anxious Avoidance Attachment Babies
The caregiver's failure to meet the child's needs may occur due to lack of trust and a consistent environment. As a result of the caregiver's reaction to the child, an insecure bond will be formed between the child and the caregiver. There is clinical evidence that such long-term attitudes of parents or caregivers cause many psychopathological conditions in later life (Bowlby, 1988). It is common for children with this attachment type to experience emotional, physical and sexual abuse. The child who acquired an avoidant attachment type in childhood may ignore the need for closeness in adulthood. May avoid long-term relationships. They may fear that their partner is abusing their feelings and may think that people are unreliable. This type of avoidance may be because the person is afraid of harming themselves. The person may have difficulty meeting their emotional needs.
Disorganized Attachment Babies
After secure, anxious and avoidant attachment types, Main and Soloman are scattered developed the disorganized attachment type. This type of attachment can be seen in people who have experienced neglect and abuse in childhood.
Disorganized attachment style, also known as disorganized attachment style, is also included as fear of caregivers.
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