Sometimes I see that some people around me are taking so much from the bottom! I witness so many people giving up on themselves! The more I think and read, the more reasons it always takes me back to childhood. Contrary to Freud, Neo-Freudians who came after Freud state that the child is shaped by the interpersonal environment rather than being governed by innate instincts. They mention that it is important to satisfy the child's interpersonal need for acceptance and approval, rather than satisfying the aggressive and sexual appetite, as Freud mentioned. They also mention that the child has innate “great energy, curiosity, inherent potential for development, and a desire to keep the adults he loves.” These characteristics of children may not always be compatible with adults' expectations. At these times, the conflict experienced by children occurs between basic growth tendencies and the need for trust/approval. “If a child has the misfortune of having parents who are so preoccupied with their neurotic struggles that they cannot encourage trust or autonomous development for their child, serious conflicts arise,” Yalom says. he says and adds, "In such a struggle, development is always sacrificed for the sake of trust."
It is sacrificed... it is sacrificed because children love their parents with a blind love... so much that they sacrifice themselves for the sake of themselves. They love... so they sacrifice their curiosity... the potential in their nature to develop... they give up themselves, their potential, just to be loved and approved. After?
The next is the lives spent in search of approval...then the lives spent in the need to be loved...then these adult-looking wounded children that I see...the ones around who want to get approval from the people they consider their parents...the unfinished business After.... wounded hearts carrying the burden of the past on their shoulders!
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