Self-confidence is beyond self-confidence, it is a person's self-respect and belief in himself. It means that a person helps those around him with his strong characteristics and is aware of his weak characteristics and improves them. It is the person's ability to empathize. The concept of self-confidence; It is the integrated state of trust, worthiness, adequacy, empathy and self-esteem.
In fact, when we look at the first point of formation of the feeling of self-confidence, the origin of this concept dates back to infancy.
The first need of the newborn baby is the basic feeling of trust. . In other words, when the baby opens its eyes to the world, it first wants to feel safe and expresses its wishes by crying. These desires are like being fed, diapered, and held. If these wishes are not fulfilled when and sufficiently, the baby feels insecure. Therefore, the baby; He begins to develop an unconscious belief that "I am not worth loving and others are not trustworthy." This is exactly where the basic sense of trust in self-confidence is formed.
A baby who has had a healthy sense of basic trust and has reached the age of 1.5 now requires 2 things from his parent to form the foundations of self-confidence; “make me feel valued and instill in me a sense of competence”.
So, the self-confidence formed in childhood has two main components. One is "self-worth" and the other is "self-efficacy". Both emotions must occur together in a healthy way in the child so that the child can develop self-confidence.
For example; If you give your child a feeling of worth but leave the feeling of competence incomplete, your child will not be able to complete his/her self-confidence formation.
In other words, if you make your child feel "valuable" with your words and actions while raising him/her, but if you prevent the development of his/her self-skills with your protective attitude, you may harm your child's self-confidence formation.
>Or, if you give your child a feeling of competence but leave the feeling of worthiness incomplete, your child will still not be able to complete his/her self-confidence formation.
In other words, if you make him/her feel worthless with your oppressive attitude, humiliations and comparisons while allowing your child to do the work he/she can do, this will hinder your child's self-confidence formation. You may cause damage.
� Self-confidence is a bird, its two wings are self-worth and self-sufficiency. Just as a bird cannot fly without wings, children are like that too. If you want your child to be self-confident; You should give your child both wings together.
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