When, why and how should we apologize? When do you expect an apology from the other person? What is apologizing? What impact can such a simple word have on human psychology? These and many similar questions can be written, or there may be those of you who never apologize and see this as a sign of weakness.
Most people have a tendency to think that they are perfect and flawless. But even while reading it, you must have realized how unrealistic this idea is. No one is perfect and no one else can expect you to be perfect. It is in the nature of being human to fall down, make mistakes and learn. However, do you cover up these mistakes and leave them behind, or are you aware that you need to do something to fix them?
You expect people who upset you, acted wrongly towards you, or upset you to apologize to you as a result of their actions. Sometimes you may even have lectured your child, partner or close friend about the great virtue of apologizing. But to what extent do you fulfill this virtue that you say to someone else?
These words, which have many positive effects for both the apologist and the apologized party, affect you both physiologically and psychologically. According to a study, it was concluded that a sincere apology normalizes blood pressure and regulates heartbeat.
The person who apologizes not only gets the opportunity to improve his relationship with the person he is wrong with, but also gets rid of the psychology of guilt. Apologizing to the person who is wrong gives the message to the other person that "I am aware of what I did and I feel sorry for it." What is effective here is to show that you value the person you are apologizing to. Not apologizing may cause the seeds of hatred to be planted in your relationship with the message "I don't care" and cause you to deal with many other problems.
In order for the apology to be effective, it must be made after the behavior and with sincere feelings. Thoughts such as "As long as he doesn't drag this issue out" or "I should ask for an apology because he expects it" will hurt the other person even more and you will make an ineffective apology.
Do not hesitate to apologize when necessary to move your perspective to a positive point, to protect your relationships and loved ones, and to feel happy and good, even if it is a bit selfish. Be empathetic, would I expect an apology if the other person did to me what I did?
If your answer is yes, you know what you need to do.
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