The child reflects whatever he experiences in the family to the outside world, therefore he makes some assumptions about himself and his environment based on some experiences he has gained within the mother, father and family, and builds the rest of his life based on those assumptions. Self-confidence is a phenomenon that is internalized with parental support and develops over time. A self-confident child retains the power of decision-making, wants to choose, is demanding, does not give up trying even if he makes a mistake, is more effective in communication, tends to solve problems, and is more active. Parents should be sensitive about some issues in order to impart these characteristics to their children.
Give priority to your child
Sometimes parents do not communicate enough with their children due to busy work. However, you need to make time for your child to know that he is loved and to feel important. Really listen to him when he wants to tell you something. If you are too busy or tired to listen, tell him to give you 15 minutes and you will finish his work and listen to him, and do what you say.
2. Do not use sentences like "You are great, you did a great job" too often. The important thing is to always try and make an effort. Update your motivational sentences. For example, instead of saying "your picture is great", say "I really like the colors you chose, how colorful your picture looks". Focus on the process, not the outcome.
3.Give the right to choose
Parents sometimes worry that giving their children the right to choose means giving up control. The important point here is that you determine the options you will offer to your child. That is, you do not have to offer something your child will not like to do as an option. For example; "Do you want to take your bath before or after dinner?" is to offer an option, but taking a bath here is not a matter open to discussion. When your child chooses the time as he wishes, he will feel that he has a choice, he will feel that he is doing something under his own control, and he will feel safe.
4. Ask for help
Your child n Ask for help from time to time. A child who feels that he or she has a contribution to some of the work done at home feels helpful and useful. Additionally, doing a joint job together increases your sharing. You can make requests depending on your child's age. For example, he can arrange the plates on the table while you are preparing the meal.
5.Say "yes" more, do not be restrictive
Being too restrictive towards your child And frequently saying no to what they want can create disappointment and hesitation in your child. A child who is constantly rejected will stop demanding after a while or become angry. Of course, there should be certain unchanging rules and boundaries in the child's life. However, if there is a situation that will not push your limits and your child does not have excessive or dangerous requests, saying yes as much as you can will increase his or her self-confidence.
6. Give time before presenting the solution, let your child find the solution himself.
It means that you find the solution to every situation your child encounters, rush to the problems he encounters, and prevent your child from solving problems. When he encounters a problem, you will do him a great favor if you open a discussion topic such as "Let's think together for a while, what do you think we can do to solve this?" and encourage your child to find a solution.
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