The divorce process often occurs at a time when people do not expect it or when they cannot adequately evaluate the situation. Asking the following questions before divorce will help you get through the process better.
What is my role in getting to this point?; During the divorce process, couples often forget that marriage is a common pool and always look for blame on the other party. However, in marriage, there is generally a situation we call "circular causality" in the emergence or at least persistence of a problem; For example, “If you were not so submissive, would your spouse act so dominant?”
Has marriage therapy ever been tried; Many marital problems are left alone. While marriages that are left to their own devices often end, therapies that are started early and before mutual respect and love end often yield positive results and the couple can experience a pleasant "transformation". It is very important that the therapist is “experienced and well-educated”.
Could I have taken my own family, truths, and past as a reference and imposed my own truths on my spouse? Perhaps the most important factor that determines what kind of spouse each of us will be is the spouse/marriage model that we follow in the first 6 years of age and model in our subconscious. So, even if you receive the best education in the world, it is very difficult to get rid of this effect. This effect occurs especially under stress, that is, conflicts in areas such as how men should behave, the role of women, raising children; This always happens through subconscious processes, with reference to family history or culture.
Could I or my spouse have a psychological problem? Alcohol and substance addiction or some undiagnosed diseases and personality disorders (narcissistic, etc.) may have brought the problem to this point.
Could I have blamed my spouse for the natural difficulties of marriage? What kind of big picture did I have about marriage? This marriage was one of the thousands of marriages that looked for excitement and passion outside, due to the picture of a one hundred percent safe, monotonous, passionless big marriage. Or am I trying to complete personal unfinished business through freedom or similar things by sabotaging the marriage?
How much does infidelity or a third party affect the marriage? : It is much more difficult to fix a marriage when there is a third person in your life. Divorce is a difficult and painful process. 3 K There are a lot of feelings of anger and guilt in the processes where relationships are involved, and even if divorce occurs, statistics show that the termination rates of 2nd relationships or marriages are very high. If you have such a problem, be sure to start with individual therapy.
Are children affected by divorce: Please review our articles on this subject. This subject is very important and long.
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