It provides moral development, which means internal control, by teaching discipline, responsibility and the rules to be followed within the family. Internal control cannot be forced by external force. It can only be achieved through the application of discipline based on love. In other words, discipline is related to the internalization of responsibility and does not mean punishment.
Listening to the child, understanding, giving the right messages... The difficulties we experience in our relationship with our child are basically related to the implementation of discipline within the family. It is very important for children, as for adults, to be accepted and appreciated and to know that their parents are proud of them. The child who is exposed to unacceptable, tense, angry approaches, looks and facial expressions feels disappointed and tries to assert himself and have himself accepted by controlling this external world that is not happy with him and does not accept him. This situation causes the child to begin to develop a reaction against the behavior that is intended to be taught, to persist in his own attitude, and to constantly test his parents and force them to measure how much he can influence them. Another reason why the child insists on doing what he wants is that the reasoning ability required to distinguish between right and wrong has not yet matured. This still does not prevent knowing how to say "stop" or "no" to the child's behavior when necessary. Setting limits is restricting the child's behavior for clear (determined, precise, calm and continuous) and understandable reasons. The aim is for your child not to do the action he should not do for your sake, not because you are angry or annoyed, but by realizing that he should not do it.
For this reason, as a parent, you should teach the child the rules and behavioral patterns that he must follow;
1. For example, we can teach it by 2. Giving positive feedback or no feedback, 3. Depriving it of its rights.
Children imitate what they see. If adults who have an important place in their lives react aggressively to the child's negative behavior (shouting, hitting, throwing, throwing, etc.), children will have a tendency to follow this example and show similar behavior. Corporal punishment and threats Negative control methods such as can change the child's behavior for the moment. Sometimes such methods are applied when the parent cannot spare time for his child due to workload, being under stress, etc. However, the same method often does not work when applied a second time. Children who have been exposed to oppressive and aggressive tendencies from their parents for a long time will tend to behave aggressively in their relationships with their friends and environment, and will also tend to be unhappy, irritable, restless, disobedient, lying, and having frequent tantrums. Because these children are reinforced to feel worthless, disapprove, excluded, and have low self-esteem and self-confidence. Children who often hear how badly they behave, who are verbally or physically punished and humiliated for these behaviors, will after a while begin to believe that they are like that and will adopt the role assigned to them.
From birth, they will be understanding, affectionate, respectful and understanding towards their children. Parents who state the rules clearly are less likely to have naughty children. Because mischief is a method used by the child because he does not know any other way to meet his needs. In addition, mischief is a method that the child uses because he/she can receive some attention and attention when he/she misbehaves, which he/she does not receive when he/she is bored and behaves positively, and makes it noticed. Your communication process and communication style with your child plays an important role in the basis and solution of all these negativities.
The primary goal of the parent is to ensure that the child learns the options and feedback that will be created in accordance with his age and ability. (offering limited options, giving small responsibilities). Being consistent in setting limits (using a clear, understandable tone of voice, facial expressions, and being able to exhibit the same approach in every practice). It is important to give stable feedback (empathy) that the child can predict in advance.
On the basis of understanding your child, it is important to be aware of what your child is doing and why, to listen to him without glossing over his words, and not to miss the clues in his games. Make sure your child understands what you mean as much as possible. It will make it easier for him/her to understand you if you express it clearly and at the level he/she can (capacity, abilities, age and personal characteristics) and tell him/her what he/she should do rather than what he/she should not do. In addition, as a parent, you should not lose control, he/she will see you as an authority/reliable and knowledgeable person. It enables the child to accept you, test you less and be more inclined to cooperate.
It provides moral development, which means internal control, by teaching discipline, responsibility and the rules to be followed in the family. Internal control cannot be forced by external force. It can only be achieved through the application of discipline based on love. In other words, discipline is related to the internalization of responsibility and does not mean punishment.
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