It can be said that jealousy is our partner's way of saying "you leave me uninterested, take care of me" in a situation where our partner is directed towards something other than ourselves. Of course, the level of interest we have in ourselves is important here.
Extreme jealousy is the pronunciation of saying "show me excessive attention." At this point, do we have to meet the interest there as a partner? Of course, attention and care play an important role in relationships, and the limits of what and how much we want and how much attention we can show belong to us, based on the discourses conveyed by our partner. At what point do we say this when we say show me a lot of attention? Maybe it may make more sense to request this when you are sick or experiencing a negative situation.
But what about out of the blue? If we want this frequently in our daily lives, it may be a problem for the other party at this point. Frequent demands for attention can overwhelm and strain a person, and too much closeness can be stifling.
In a way, what he says, "Give me attention often, I don't want to lose you and I'm nervous," is also a message. What is meant by the message is a message that conveys the anxiety of "You can leave me, turn to someone else, move away from me", that is, I do not trust you. While this situation is a situation experienced more deeply by the jealous person, experiencing these uneasiness turns into a message in which the other partner says "being so close makes me feel overwhelmed". It may come back. I'm overwhelmed, I can't show constant attention, so it may be going to a point where it says leave it alone. In other words, it's a message where it says trust me!
The pressure of closeness resulting from one's concern for trust can cause the other to move away. As they move away, the other gets more worried and more worried. It puts pressure on them to show interest and this can lead to an inextricable cycle in which they distance themselves from each other and break up with each other. This inextricable cycle can turn into a destructive relationship after a while.
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