It is the dream of all young people and newlyweds to meet each other. Flirting, exciting meetings, families meeting, asking for a girl, engagement and finally the wedding is now the time to become a family and reunite with each other. Sweet rushes and rushes, all to be a happy family... To be a parent. There is no one who does not experience the excitement of the first night. Excitement or fear?.. Sweet excitement is a must. Couples, who think that the first days are just excitement or fatigue, as the days pass, they come to a point where they do not know what to do with a feeling of helplessness and inadequacy, and not being able to explain the situation to anyone further strengthens this situation. When fear, anxiety and false beliefs come into play, vaginismus becomes an inevitable end.
As you know, the wedding season has passed and the applications for vaginismus are quite intense. According to research, it happens to one in every 10 young women. So should this problem be considered a disease? Of course! The first scientific description was made by Dr. about 150 years ago. Made by Sims. The World Health Organization (WHO) also defines this problem. Vaginismus is a condition of extreme pain, soreness and contraction in the muscles we call PC muscles, legs, waist and abdomen during sexual intercourse, which can sometimes progress to the jaw muscles, as well as the absence of sexual intercourse. It occurs when an individual, who feels very comfortable and enjoys during foreplay, unconsciously contracts his muscles and does not allow sexual intercourse, or even makes it impossible, when he reaches the intercourse stage.
Now that we have defined vaginismus, we can also look at the causes. Thick and hard hymens with high edges, congenital structural anomalies in the hymen and vagina; Physiological reasons such as hymenal septum, vaginal septum, absence of vagina or short and blind vagina, vaginal infections, Bartholin cysts, painful vulvar vestibulitis are physiological reasons that can be seen, although very rarely.
As for the psychological reason, which is the general reason; Sexuality is just like personality development, and a break anywhere can affect the entire sexual life. Especially traumas experienced between the ages of 3-5, unfounded, incorrect or incomplete information about sexual intercourse or birth, etc. Reasons such as witnessing sexual events, sexual harassment, religious conservatism.
So what? How can we get rid of this nightmare vaginismus? First of all, the individual should stop not wanting to blame himself for vaginismus and stop consoling himself by saying that it will pass over time and accept that he has vaginismus. Constantly postponing it with excuses makes the treatment process even more difficult. Falling apart with each unsuccessful attempt will wear out the person and the marriage, and may cause problems such as premature ejaculation or erection in the other spouse. The couple should first go to a gynecologist, taking into account physiological reasons, without postponing the next action. After the physiological part of the work is eliminated, you can go to a sexual therapist.
What happens in sexual therapy? If there is no other underlying pathological condition, it is possible to get rid of the vaginismus nightmare by correcting the wrong beliefs and any traumas. If there is any other underlying pathological condition, these can be corrected first and progress can be made towards the result. If marital problems begin to occur due to this situation, spouse and marriage therapies can also be applied.
Finally, vaginismus is not a fate...
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