We know that infancy and early childhood are very important in the development of the child. One of the reasons that makes this period important is the bonding formed between the mother, father or caregiver and the child, especially in the 0-3 age period. This attachment style directly affects the child's future behavior. Let's take a look at what the types of attachments are and how these attachments are formed.
If the baby's needs are met in a timely and adequate manner, if he can respond to crying and laughing reactions, and if he receives attention and sincerity in communication with a calm and affectionate adult, Secure attachment begins to develop. Thus, the baby begins to develop positive thoughts about himself, his environment and the world. In later life, in his relationships with others, he becomes a secure individual who does not seek approval, can establish closeness, and support others. A securely attached individual has no difficulty in establishing long-term relationships and has high respect and confidence in himself and others.
Anxious attachment begins to develop as a result of the caregiver being very worried about raising and raising the baby, having difficulty separating from the baby, and feeling inadequate. Anxiously attached babies have difficulty staying in an environment where their mothers are not around, cry a lot, and even have difficulty calming down when the mother comes. Because they constantly have fears of abandonment, they worry about rejection later in life, experience jealousy and distrust in their relationships, and even experience intense anger in interpersonal relationships.
Avoidant attachment develops as a result of the caregiver being insensitive to the baby's wishes, being more self-focused, and having difficulty establishing sincere, sincere and warm relationships. Babies who develop avoidant attachment do not seem to care about their mother's absence, but when they are reunited with the mother, they may act angry or be indifferent to the mother's presence. Babies who develop avoidant attachment try to stay away from investing in emotional relationships later in life. They may feel uncomfortable with the attention and sincerity of others. Being alone when they need support, knowing that others need help When it happens, they prefer to stay away. In fact, the underlying feeling is usually that they are afraid of not getting the necessary support or of being rejected if they ask for help.
It is not possible for the child not to form attachment, and one of the attachment types must be formed. What creates this attachment is our reactions to the child's needs during critical periods.
Attachment with the mother is important for the child and cannot be compared to any other form of attachment, but bonding with the father is just as important in the child's life. While the child's bond with the mother puts the child's inner world on a solid foundation, the bond established with the father prepares the child for the outside world. Forming a secure attachment with the father supports the child's emotional development. In order to establish a healthy bond between father and baby, the father must participate in activities related to the care of the baby in the first year. It is important for fathers to be sensitive and caring in their interactions with their children. Parents who are warm and sensitive towards their children can establish secure attachment relationships with their children through play and caregiving. For the child, the father gives a different perspective than the mother. While the father's influence is so important and effective in this process, fathers should not be considered to be left out of the process.
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