Do I need a recipe? The accounting you do with your inner voice sometimes turns into a fight with yourself. Is there anyone who hasn't done this to themselves? There is no one who is not stuck between their instincts, urges, desires, elders, and beliefs. There is no one who does not fight with someone, who does not destroy, who does not hang and slaughter, who does not always walk around with inner peace, or I have never heard of it because they have never come to me!
Especially women accumulate a lot of negative emotions and thoughts. If a woman starts to talk about a negative thought ring circulating in her brain, sometimes the rings come out like an endless chain attached end to end. She lists her anger towards her husband, who didn't like the dinner he cooked last night, and ends with the argument they had at the wedding dress rehearsal 30 years ago.
ASK the things that are on your mind, don't remain silent. Without blaming, without judging, without hoarding it inside you. If you keep silent, you will not be able to end your dreams by fighting with that person in your dreams. The conflict that is not ended with a showdown and goodbye will continue and go on for years. Talk to the person you are in conflict with calmly, privately, when he/she is asleep, fed, and in a good mood, and ask how the other person can solve this without speaking badly or harshly about their personality or identity. Try not to sacrifice your own peace of mind and well-being for anything or anyone. Internal restlessness is an unnecessary waste of energy. Your meaningless fatigue is the cause of your uncontrollable anger.
Stop filling yourself up. Look at that person from afar, from all aspects, as if you were looking at a forest. Without considering the good things he brings to you as your own. Usually, in mutual conflicts, we find ourselves in the position of referee and saying "you are right" to both sides. Like Nasreddin Hodja...
There are absolute truths, and there are vague truths such as "The sun rises in the east, spouses should not cheat on each other." The handle of the glass in front of me is on the right for me and the left for the person in front of me. With sheer stubbornness, even for such an absurd thing, people conflict and lead to a power struggle. The result is that if you ask hearts that have been broken for years, they will never remember the reason for the fight.
Disperse the dark clouds over your head. If you have trouble controlling this situation, increase your physical movements and hobbies. interior You can also put your arguments in writing. If talking to that person doesn't work, getting help from extended family or friends can sometimes make the problem worse. A problem for two sometimes leads to a problem for the entire family. It turns into GOSSIP. Seek professional psychiatric help.
Sometimes, while playing, children line up like a rope, whisper a word to the person at the beginning of the line, whisper it to the other person in turn, and the word spoken by the child at the end of the line is a completely different word, they laugh, try this in gossip. Sometimes you may feel sad and angry when you hear where even your well-intentioned words were taken and how they were understood.
Do not pay attention to those who carry gossip, do not listen to them, someone who can easily fill himself with things can easily fill you with it. Unfortunately, these stuffing happens between families. Another little-known proverb is an answer to this: 'I don't get angry with my father because of my mother, or with my mother because of my father.' ‘
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