Care of children, education, economic concerns, endless work, ringing phones, life's ups and downs... "Parenting stress" is a phrase or a concept that has found its definition in the psychology literature. So, does this phrase remind you of something from your own life?
“I have a lot of work! The to-do list is long. Moreover, is it easy to raise children in this era? What does my child need? How will I tell my child what happened? Don't let my child's psychology get worse. He needs this and he needs that. This and this... Yes, but... I feel a little tired, do I feel tired? No no! This is not the time. I have to compile myself, collect myself, keep together the parts of me that I thought would fall apart. I must stand. Because my child needs me.”
Being a parent is a unique experience. You have a unique place in a puppy's growth journey. The bond you feel with him, the power you feel within you to grow him is unique. That's why you always desire the best and try to do your best to achieve the best. However, despite all these beauties, can you ignore the stress that your parenting role brings?
Parenting Stress Factors
Just like the ups and downs of life itself, the parenting experience also There are responsibilities that come with it and some stress factors that accompany these responsibilities. It is possible to list these stress factors briefly:
- Fulfilling daily routines (pick-up and drop-off the children from school, etc.)
- Keeping up with the changes in the daily routine (managing the change in your work schedule due to the child's rising fever, etc.). . )
-Managing unexpected life events (one of your relatives having a serious traffic accident, being assigned to another city)
-Wide-wide socioeconomic factors (economic crisis in the country, epidemics)
We know that it is not possible to completely control these stress factors. However, you can change how you face all of this and improve your coping strategies. Parents who can manage the stress of parenting and continue to thrive are called "psychologically resilient parents." ;
Psychologically Resilient Parent
You do not fully possess some of the characteristics that I will list as indicators of psychological resilience. If you think so, don't worry. Because, like everything in life, these features can be changed and improved. People have a kind of "repair capacity" in their spiritual structure. Thanks to this “repair” capacity, they can act on things that are not going well and create change.
When we look at the sources, the characteristics of psychologically resilient parents can be summarized as follows:
-They can solve problems effectively.
-They have the ability to show flexibility. .
-They use humor.
-They have supportive social/close relationships.
-They have a secure attachment figure.
-They know their resources and can access these resources when necessary.
-They have good communication skills.
-They are hopeful.
-They are optimistic.
Psychological Things You Can Do to Increase Your Endurance
(If you feel exhausted and unable to start with the items I have listed below, please seek support from a mental health professional.)
-Accepting that parenting stress is normal
-Keeping a diary
-Doing regular physical activity (walking, skipping rope, yoga, etc.)
-Those who have similar problems meeting and talking with positive people/groups
-Making time for yourself every day
-Making a list of your resources
-Understanding and trying to make sense of your own past story
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-Showing love and compassion to your inner child
-Getting consultancy and support from an expert when necessary
BONUS
Take a Close Look at Your Relationship with Parenting Stress
What helps me cope with daily stress?
Where do I get my strength?
How does this power help me parent?
What do I dream of for myself and my family?
What sadness and disappointments do I deal with during the day? These How do I solve it?
How can I continue to meet my child's needs when I am under stress?
How does my spouse support me?
What helps me the most when I am under stress?
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