The baby, who begins to take life step by step after birth, begins to develop the attachment instinct with the care of the mother, and begins to develop beyond the beginning. Attachment behavior is an instinctive behavior and humans are born ready and equipped to experience social interactions. The forms and qualities of attachment behaviors are shaped by the attitudes of the caregiver. Bowlby stated that these primary patterns continue to operate in social relationships throughout the individual's life without being aware of it.
From the moment the baby is born, mutual face-to-face signals by the mother or caregiver initiate social communication. The child's internal reactions are determined by the signals sent to the baby by the caregiver. The child begins to internalize unique rhythms. With adequate reactions, the child's formation of a positive internal integrity is strengthened and adequate attachment develops. The adequate connection that is meant can also be defined as follows; One of Winnicott's important concepts, what he calls "a good enough mother", is not about meeting everything the child needs, but about supporting and meeting the child's needs. When the mother gives the baby as much support as he needs, she teaches him to struggle with his own needs. This is exactly what ensures its integrity. On the contrary, meeting all of their unlimited needs is the biggest obstacle for the child. In this case, the child cannot struggle or make an effort and needs the mother. We can say that the child who is dependent on the mother cannot establish a secure attachment. A child who cannot have a secure attachment cannot make clear decisions because he cannot cope with life, cannot be alone, needs his mother at all times, and his space of movement remains limited. In other words, his personality integrity is lost and he becomes dependent on the mother. A child who becomes dependent on his mother cannot establish trusting relationships with the people around him in later adulthood. People who cannot establish safe relationships, that is, people who have not matured enough, are constantly clouded by inner confusion such as "but I can't do this alone" or "I can't decide this, I wish I had someone with me". They include supportive and guiding people in their lives so that they can have a clear understanding of their own indecisiveness. So that the boundary can be attributed to a determination, and thus the person who has been dependent until now with his mother surrenders this binding duty towards the other. And they constantly remain in need of shaping themselves by the people around them.
References
Eğilmez, A. (2013). Neurobiology of Attachment. Psikeart, 26, 8 - 11.
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