We live our lives in black and white, we lose other colors that are important for our health, and as a result we pay a significant price.
We always say, "I should be the best mother, my son should be the most successful student at school, my son should be the most successful." We chase thoughts like "I should earn the most money, I should be the first, I should have everything I want, I should have the most beautiful wife" or we say "or nothing" and then we say "I'm so bad, I can't do it, there's nothing left of me, I'd be surprised if I did it, how can my wife tolerate me?" We are crushed under thoughts such as, "I can't do justice to motherhood, I'm the ugliest person in school."
Some of us have no intermediate value between 0 and 100 in our value judgments, 0 and 99 have equal value. “I boasted to my mother that I came third in the university exam in the city we were in. My mother said with an icy expression: “Why didn't you come first? From the moment he asked, I forgot what happiness was. Can you imagine the price paid by a chronic depression patient who says, "If I am not where I should be in my life today, I know that my mother is responsible for this?"
Our age is the age of competition and consumption. For this reason, our lives are becoming increasingly difficult and the word stress is on our agenda at all times. Please let's not look at life in terms of "white/black, 0/100, all/none, best/worst, extreme/extreme". Let "shades of grey, 50, as much as possible and moderation" always be in the back of our minds.
One way to get rid of the black-and-white perspective can be to revive other colors in our lives. It would be appropriate to add other occupations, social activities, hobbies, new information, human sharing, and healthy communication to our life spent between work and home and lived on the edge (filial duties to parents, joint activities with our children and spouses, visits to relatives and neighbors, visiting charity organizations). such as active duties, active participation in social projects, hobbies whose products we see, dealing with soil/animals and plants, gaining new knowledge in fields such as history/literature/philosophy/psychology, chat assemblies/wedding-association/conferences/concerts/theatre/cultural trips. Efforts to take advantage of opportunities and increase sharing and communication (verbal, physical) with people, etc.).
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