An innocent purpose, such as getting rid of the ordinariness of other days by attributing special meanings, or an unsentimental purpose, such as surrendering to the irresistible attraction of increasing consumption in today's society. Whatever the reason, we now have many days that are left open when they are skipped, and are considered strange if they are not celebrated.
Among these days that have recently increased in popularity, the most special ones have undoubtedly been birthdays, where people of all ages want to be remembered and need to feel special.
Nowadays, while awareness of other special days is increasing, the way birthdays are celebrated is undoubtedly Especially in the efforts of families to make their children's birthdays more special, the scale seems to be out of control. "The child's age, level of development and things that actually mean something to him/her" may remain as a detail in parties where organization companies are activated and planned down to the smallest detail, from the size of the cake to the quality of the venue. The family, in its rush to make the best organization, can move away from the purpose of the day and form can take precedence over substance.
There is no clear answer proven by research to the question of how harmful this situation could be. However, it is thought that lavish celebrations may cause the child to exaggerate his/her self-worth, thus negatively affecting his/her individual development and the relationships he/she will establish with his/her immediate environment in the following years. The best gift that can be given to a child is "recognizing the anniversary of the day he was born and having a pleasant time with loved ones", which makes him feel how valuable his mere existence is for his family and friends. There is no doubt that supporting this awareness with birthday rituals such as cake, candles, photography and camera shooting cannot be considered excessive, as it will enable the day to be carried as a memory for years to come. Excessiveness means something that is not appropriate for the child's age and is often done by the family unknowingly or sometimes by necessity; Focusing on the size of the cake, making excessive mental efforts about the place where the organization will be held, who will attend, what music will be played, in short, "the best birthday organization effort" is the child's birthday. � can be considered as extremes that will not make it more special.
How right is it to make a little child feel that he/she is important enough to throw big parties? Do you think that these kinds of parties are organizations that parents organize to satisfy themselves?
Some parents now feel obliged to organize these parties, which have become a trend. This state of feeling obligatory is an extension of the false belief that "If your friend has a mobile phone or tablet, we should have one too, so that he will not be sad or feel incomplete". It can be said that it turns into a field, therefore it corresponds to an objectivity that the child does not actually need or even realizes.
From what age would it be appropriate to organize such birthday events for children and what should be the content and boundaries of it?
There is no clear age limit stating that children's birthdays should be celebrated especially after this age. There is no harm in celebrations starting from the age of 1, along with classic birthday rituals, attended by family members. During the school period, additional activities specific to the age of the children can be added, in which the close circle of friends can be included, and which do not strain the socioeconomic conditions of the family. While it will not have any effect, it also carries the risk of creating distortions in the child's perception of self-worth. The aim should not be for everyone to talk about that day the next day, but to make the child feel that it is a special day for the child. Is there anything you would like to add about such events? What advice would you give to parents?
Continuous and consistent parental behavior from birth onwards is much more valuable in the healthy spiritual development of the child than a one-day lavish birthday party that is overvalued. The healthy development of self-worth in the child cannot be considered independently of the attitudes of parents on other days of the year.
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