The Importance of the Decision to Marry
Marriage is the union of the lives of a man and a woman as prescribed by social rules and laws. In marriage, which aims to live together throughout life, having regular, harmonious and balanced relationships is closely related to making the right marriage decision at the beginning. The decision to marry is an important decision that will affect more than two-thirds of human life and the entire future. The marriage decision affects a wide range of areas, from the individual to the society, the spouses who marry, the relatives of both parties, and the children born from this marriage. A healthy and strong society is achieved through family and marriage, which are the core of the society.
Conditions of Marriage
Marriage is sharing life with someone of the opposite sex. In addition to "legal" and "social" conditions, it also brings "individual-specific responsibilities". For this reason, before individuals enter the stage of getting married and "choosing a spouse", it is beneficial for them to first evaluate their own situation and personal conditions in terms of the conditions envisaged by entering into marriage and the natural responsibilities that marriage will bring.
Below are the appropriate times and conditions for marriage. Some general criteria are given that can be used to evaluate whether marriage is appropriate or not.
Development and Maturity Level
People who are getting married must have physical, mental and The person must have gone through certain stages of social development and maturation and reached a functional life level under the conditions of marriage. The Turkish Civil Code determines this level of development and maturity as "age" as 17 for boys and 15 for girls. Those under this age are not legally allowed to marry.
In early marriages, the marriages are unlikely to be successful and long-lasting because the individuals' goals and ideals for the future are not fully formed, their life philosophies are not determined and the marriage conditions are not met. is happening. In early marriages, the possibility of spouses becoming an "independent family" decreases, and the possibility of relatives outside the family entering the married couple's life increases.
In the development and maturation of individuals, Since there are individual differences, in addition to their lives, the physical development, physical strength, ability to have children and general development and maturity levels of the people who will get married should be evaluated separately, beyond their legal age, specific to the people who will get married.
General development. Although in terms of maturation, individuals are able to have children when they reach puberty, the potential to have children alone is not considered sufficient for marriage, as people have not reached the developmental level to have and care for children, and the social and emotional maturity to be parents. It is accepted that young people only reach the emotional, social and economic maturity to become parents between the ages of 17 and 21. For these reasons, young people need to be aware that marriages under the age of 20 are generally not healthy and appropriate.
Achieving Economic Independence
Before reaching the decision to get married, The parties must have the economic means to cover general household and family expenses to support the family. It is mandatory for spouses to be able to meet various needs, to undertake economic responsibilities successfully, and to have a job or profession that will provide regular income to meet economic needs. In addition, it is of great importance that they have the ability to use the income they earn wisely. For this reason, it is beneficial for people who are getting married not to get married before completing education, training and training programs that will provide economic independence and job opportunities.
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