We encounter news of rape and harassment in newspapers with increasing frequency in recent years. While these news may be about incidents between adults, they may also be about harassment and rape crimes committed by adults against children, or even children against children. The image of a rapist in many of our minds overlaps with the brutal, psychopathic characters in old Turkish movies. However, contrary to popular belief, the majority of rapists are normal-looking people whom we would never suspect at first glance. And again, contrary to popular belief, according to research conducted abroad and especially in the USA, up to 85% of people who are raped and harassed already know the rapist or harasser.
Rape. and more than half of those who experience attempted harassment are attacked by someone they met and went out with. While these attacks are, in some cases, carried out by people who have just met and have had the opportunity to get to know them only in limited environments, a significant portion of them are carried out by people in their business, friend and relative circles. Another noteworthy point is that a significant number of rapists feel the need to record the rape on camera or even share it on the internet and similar media.
A significant portion of men who attempt rape (we rarely encounter women's actions against men and children) (we exclude it from the scope of this article) believes that his action was not rape or harassment. They argue that they do not have to provide the other party's consent every time, citing their previous acquaintance, intimacy and sharing with the person they are in a relationship with, or previous consensual sexual experiences.
England. Even in an advanced, modern culture such as this, when people are asked their opinions about a rape incident, approximately one in every three people say that they are 'itchy' about the incident they are faced with, because they are 'irritated', in colloquial terms, due to reasons such as the woman's behavior and behavior, her clothing, her being excessively drunk. They point out that the woman is responsible for the rape, stating that she deserved it. This whole condition During these times, it is not possible for the victim to face the reality he/she is experiencing and to evaluate the event he/she is experiencing rationally and with fair emotions.
If the person who rapes or harasses is the victim's superior or employer, between them If there is an authority relationship, the situation becomes even worse. Since there is a close relationship based on trust and there are risks related to work and career, the victim has a much harder time protecting himself. If this attempt becomes the subject of a complaint, the victim will experience the risk of being heard by colleagues, spouses and relatives and other accompanying concerns as a great shock. If he has not previously been psychologically prepared for such a possibility, it becomes almost impossible for him to immediately and accurately evaluate the situation he is faced with due to this shock and to make the necessary efforts to protect himself. The situation becomes even more difficult to deal with when the aggressor is a relative (for example, a brother-in-law), a close friend of the spouse, or the spouse of a close friend. If the victim is in a feeling of sexual deprivation for various reasons, if he realizes or suspects that he was experiencing sexual pleasure during the attack, it is no longer possible for him to forgive himself and accept his innocence.
The woman who is the victim of rape experiences pain, Because they cannot cope with their feelings of shame and guilt, they see themselves as responsible for the rape, and 95% of the time they do not even file a complaint. One third of women in this predicament consider suicide as a means of punishing themselves and compensating for their guilt. In recent years, shocking news appeared in British newspapers. A British man was arrested following a complaint from a woman he raped, and as the investigation progressed, it was revealed that this man had raped more than 1,000 women in the last two years. For various reasons, none of the women had filed a complaint with the judicial authorities.
When the victims of rape and harassment are children, not adults, it becomes more difficult to compensate for the destruction and heal the wounds. Many children face these attacks at an age when they do not yet have the understanding and maturity to understand the gravity and meaning of the event they are experiencing. and unlike adults, they are forced to experience these traumas repeatedly for long periods of time. Children who are a little older and have a half-open, half-covered idea about the gravity and meaning of the event they are experiencing cannot explain the situation they are experiencing to their families and relatives, either because they are threatened or because they believe that they will be punished if the incident is revealed. When it comes to incest cases, in some cases they are ignored or covered up by mothers or families.
Many children struggle to confront and cope with the trauma and traumatic emotions of their experiences at a later age. has to. Just as they hate themselves for having to experience such shame, they also hate their parents for not realizing what they were going through and for not protecting them, and they have a hard time forgiving them. Harassment affects girls' mate choices, often causing them to choose wrong partners with whom they cannot have secure attachments. Many of them may not have regular and stable marriages, or they may not marry at all and cannot choose a spouse. They may have to maintain a problematic and unhealthy relationship with their husbands and fathers. Boys may have problems with sexual identity. Since their masculine energies are suppressed, they have difficulty in creating and developing their masculine identity.
There are many researches and studies on the nature of rape and the personality structure of the rapist, especially in the USA and other developed countries. There are also rapists among us who have not been able to complete their personality development for various reasons, have developed a pathological personality, and therefore cannot produce themselves in an integral and complementary way in society, cannot establish harmonious and natural relationships with their social environment, and cannot live their masculine identity within normal social relations. Without exception, they are raised by respectable and well-intentioned parents. At this point, a lot of thinking is really needed. It is clear that we need to be a healthy society in order to raise healthy individuals and healthy adults.
Rape is defined as "dragging a person into sexual intercourse without his or her voluntary and conscious consent." can be interpreted. In other words; Eliminating a person's right to say no to sexual intercourse, either by using force or threats, or by using alcohol, narcotics or similar substances, is sufficient for the incident to be defined as rape. If the person with whom sexual intercourse is performed has a mental disorder or retardation that eliminates the ability to make correct and rational decisions, or is below the age of consent, sexual intercourse with this person is also defined as rape. Even if this action is committed against the spouse, the result does not change.
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