In this article, I will explain the expressions and thoughts of people with narcissistic personality traits by giving examples. We will look at what people with narcissistic characteristics say and with what kind of thinking in different situations. In other words, the situation will be in the form of the words spoken and the thought, respectively.
First Example:
Every person has been in a situation where he had to compliment someone else. When we see that someone is clearly talented at something, we compliment that person. People who display narcissistic traits may also encounter people whose talents are so obvious that they cannot be denied. For example, let's say you meet someone who reads a lot of books. A person with narcissistic characteristics may also make statements about a person who reads books, such as "it's not bad, but all he does is read" or "it's okay, but I've seen better ones" or "I could do the same thing if I wanted to waste my time." In other words, a person with narcissistic characteristics may belittle the other person's characteristics in this way. In this way, a person with narcissistic characteristics may want to highlight his own abilities by belittling other people's abilities. They may also not be able to accept that someone else can do anything better than them.
Second Example:
Suppose you are telling a positive event to a person with narcissistic characteristics. For example: You said that you saw your childhood friend on the street, but at first you couldn't recognize him, but later you sat together and had coffee. Many people will respond with “this situation happens to me too, what did you talk about, I'm happy for you”. Because that's actually what the topic is about. However, people with narcissistic characteristics then ask, "Can't you really remember the person you spent your childhood with?" It will be in the form. In other words, a person with narcissistic features may try to humiliate the other person without realizing the main theme of the story. The thought process behind this statement might go something like this: “I'm happy to catch a clear point in the other person” or “other people's weakness is my strength”. People with narcissistic characteristics may somehow belittle the other person, even if the other person does not actually have a weak point. original People with narcissistic traits are not good at finding other people's weaknesses. However, they are good at humiliating others and saying bad things. Because understanding people's weak points requires a certain level of insight.
Third Example:
People with narcissistic characteristics can criticize other people mercilessly in their romantic relationships, business lives or other relationships. In the case of criticism, I usually say “I'm just saying this for your sake?” They use the excuse. When he says this, he implies that he reflects both the truth and what is in his heart. Another criticism is that “even if you are bad in many ways, maybe one day you can be good enough to realize how good I am.” In other words, they may criticize mercilessly in order to tell the other person how good they are. For other people, this way of thinking may not make sense. However, a person with narcissistic traits may think that the best thing in life for others is to understand themselves.
Fourth Example:
This situation occurs when the character of a person with narcissistic traits is questioned. These people may be subject to frequent character criticism from the people around them due to their behavior. When a person criticizes the character, he or she may react humiliatingly by saying, "Who are you to question me?" The thought behind this is “I was offended that the other person was nice enough to criticize me.” In fact, the resentment here is not about the criticism itself, the real problem here is about not seeing the other person at a level to criticize him/her. People with narcissistic traits may respond to criticism by saying "I never lie or I always tell the truth." In fact, the way of thinking behind this sentence is "everything is true because I say it, so nothing I say can be a lie." This way of thinking is related to the 'self-deceptive' nature of people with narcissistic traits.
Fifth Example:
In this case, the person with narcissistic features questions the character of the other person. He usually does this by saying “everyone thinks the same way I do, you are alone in this”. this sentence With le, they isolate the other person from other people. In this way, it will be easier to manipulate the other person. In other words, it indicates that you are alone and other people are on their side.
We can list more examples like these five. However, saying "you are a narcissist" to a person who does these examples is one of the most wrong actions we can do. We cannot say that everyone who behaves this way has narcissistic personality disorder. Because you may have heard these words from time to time from many people around us, and even from yourself. Therefore, keep in mind that narcissistic personality disorder is a diagnosis that can only be made by a professional.
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