Mothers are hectic. They are both housewives, mothers and businesswomen. A piece of them all, wanting to do them all perfectly, and also having time for ourselves…
Now it's time to determine our priority order!
In the research conducted by Bruce D. Perry, the brain developments of a 3-year-old child who grew up normally with care and a 3-year-old child who was neglected were compared and the brain developments were compared and the results were very striking. It is striking. It is observed that the brain of a normal child who grows up with attention is larger and darker, with fewer gaps, while the brain of a neglected child is almost half the size of the other.
Mothers generally say that they cannot spare time for anything. The solution is simple, in fact, with a few suggestions I will offer you, you can have fun by sharing something with your child. You will also have time for yourself and your child without getting too tired.
What about house cleaning?
A clean house can sometimes be a waste of life. Of course, the same goes for your child. When I meet with a child client;
What is the mother's profession? I asked.
She told me that she was a cleaner.
Because her mother was always cleaning at home. Cleaning as needed without overdoing it, more games and fun with our children.
Our children take adults as models for themselves. Sometimes this can be a mother, sometimes a father, sister, brother or cousin. If there is someone who watches television all the time, our children will take that as an example. If you complain that your child watches too much television or spends hours in front of the computer, you can start by examining your home environment. Analyze it and you will see that there is something in the house that supports this. You can change these.
- Do we know our children's interests?
- What are their talents?
- Can you play a little game to find out?
Prepare questions to share your skills and interests with each other and answer these questions. You can write on papers. Then replace these papers with each other. Each question is on separate papers. Let the answers be more eye-catching. You don't have to like the same things, but you will see how happy he will be when you make a CD of the songs of his favorite artist and give it to him. In this way, you will get to know each other better and spend time together, making him/her happy.
You can pick up a hobby together.
- Cooking,
- Doing sports,
- Walking, swimming,
- Making a necklace or bracelet ,
- Taking photos.
The aim here is to be together and spend time doing something you love at the same time.
Summary of a short day. Without asking questions, without criticizing... How was your day? Try asking the question because you really care about him/her. If you ask if he did something secret from me today and your child senses this, it would not be realistic and his trust in you might be destroyed. For example, if your child experienced a bad event that day, you can tell it with funny memories from your childhood to entertain him. This way, the next time he experiences an event, you will be the first thing that comes to his mind and he will tell you first.
- Start an activity together.
Do something. -There may be puzzles.
Promise each other to eat a dessert after this puzzle is finished.
Let it be your reward.
When you eat that dessert with the pleasure of achieving something. You will see that it is more delicious.
For example, you can publish a newspaper. You can write the news of the house. It can also be called a more entertaining version of the diary. You can paste your images. You can describe the place you went and analyze it. You will share what you experience and how you feel, and you will turn it into fun.
There is no need to find activities all the time. Sometimes your child will give you direction with his creativity. Allow this. I'm sure you'll be surprised by their ideas.
Over time, you will see that the time you spend together starts to last longer and becomes more fun than watching television.
This means a happy and together family. Isn't it already?
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