When the family is mentioned, the concept of nuclear family consisting of mother, father and child is understood. The family is the smallest social institution, which has many functions both individually and socially, and continues and will continue to exist to the extent that it can fulfill these functions. Communication between spouses is very important. An essentially linear communication reflects an understanding of cause and effect and is other (other than self) oriented. If a spouse has this type of communication, he does not talk about himself or reveal himself, although he does speak only in response to others. At this stage, the spouses may talk about the bilateral, interdependent nature of their communication. For example, the man may say that he is annoyed by the tone of his wife's voice. Only when she learns of this can she clarify the meaning of her tone, adding that it is a reaction to her husband's withdrawal. This couple can see how they influence and influence each other. Communication should be clear, understandable and clear between couples.
Good communication contributes greatly to people and their relationship with people. It helps to understand oneself while trying to understand others.
COMMUNICATION TECHNIQUES
I LANGUAGE: A "I" statement reflects the fact that the speaker takes responsibility for himself. Every spouse should be able to weigh himself without being warned by his partner and be open to criticism that reminds him of using another style of language. As far as my comments about the words you said to your mother hurt you"
"I deduced from what you said that you are actually doing what you really want to do, but your body language told me you weren't sure"
VALIDATION
EDITION
TIME
OBSTACLES IN COMMUNICATION
MIND READING:"I know what you're going to say". "Yes, that's exactly what you're going to say"
PERSONALIZATION:To attack the person as well as the problem.
"You're crazy.." "You never listen to me""You're always like this"..
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DISPECT (HIMSELF)
We can say contempt for behaviors such as humiliation directed by one or both spouses towards the other party, ignoring their efforts, and constantly making use of words in their struggle. For example; In an argument that took place last night, the next day, the man comes with a flower in his hand, the woman opens the door and her attitude is: I mean, she says you think you can fool me with a flower, or she apologizes, we know, she meets with reactions like your apology. Or the woman is making an effort somehow, but the man is humiliating it. In such a case, spouses start to despise each other.
If you want a healthy communication, please try to improve your communication skills. Because you have to communicate in all areas of life, including marriages. In marriages, healthy communication between spouses is indispensable for a life with good taste. .
EXPERT THERAPIST & FAMILY COUNSELOR
GİZEM USTAOĞLU
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