On report card days, there is intense anxiety in children and a lot of excitement in families. Every family definitely wants their child to be successful, and in line with this desire, they expect their child to have a report card with good results at the end of the year. However, if the child is not able to present this expected report card to his family, how should the family approach the child?
The most important point we should pay attention to if the report card is bad is that we should not behave in any way that is humiliating or rejecting. Another important point is "Comparison", which causes children to lack self-confidence and low self-esteem. Comparison causes children to exhibit angry and aggressive behavior. Both against his family and against those he is compared to. In this case, it can be quite dangerous. Comparison children see every environment they enter in adulthood as a competitive environment, and this thought tires them out, or on the contrary, without aiming for success, they say, "I'm already a failure!" No matter what I do, they will be better than me!” There is also a strong possibility that he/she will exhibit reckless behavior with his/her thoughts. If these behaviors occur, there should be no expectation of success from that child. Because how healthy a study plan and good results can be expected from a child whose self-confidence has decreased and self-esteem has been damaged?
In this way, instead of behaviors and attitudes that will negatively affect the child's thoughts, , make him feel that you trust him and indicate that you are on his side. How effective reward and punishment are in solving success is an issue that needs some discussion. Instead of the reward and punishment system, knowing that you are with your child without getting tired or giving up, and feeling the presence of a family that supports him, is not a reward for the child, but the behavior and attitude that should be there.
Families are very big on report cards. It will be much more comforting and productive for them to attach meaning to their education life and see it as the beginning rather than the end of their life. The report card should be seen as an indicator of a child's strengths and weaknesses. By reinforcing and monitoring his strengths, he will be more successful in that field. In case of strength or weakness, extra support should be provided in that area.
First of all, children should be listened to. What he thinks about his report card, his comments about his weak lessons, and his opinions about his teacher's comments should be asked. Then, there needs to be a conversation that produces solutions together. Do not forget to appreciate the areas in which you are successful, and make plans for the next period in cooperation with the areas you are lacking in. Thus, the child's interest in his lessons will increase with the confidence of cooperation.
The most important point common to report cards or exam results is this; After discovering the children's strengths and weaknesses in the exam results you have taken, you can make the child feel very good in a field by reinforcing their strengths and making them even more successful. This attitude creates positive changes in the child's self-confidence. Although success may seem individual, we should not forget that it is a whole and the only important tool that will ensure this whole is the child and his family.
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